Question about Bisexuality?

I think its all a matter of personal bias. Many people define orientation by behavior, and think bisexuality means having sex with multiple partners, because you wouldnt be bi if you werent activly sleeping with two different genders. That arguement is wrong, and orientation is NOT solely defined by behavior. I am a woman with a man, but I am not heterosexual. I am bisexual.

Also, many gay people use being bi as a middle ground while they deal with coming out completely. I think a lot of people take their own experience, know that they were gay not bi, and assume everyone else who says they are bi are the exact same way they were.

The other thing I see, is that some gay people are jealous that bi people can choose an opposite sex partner and avoid much of the discrimination that they cant. I get harrassed all the time for having an opposite sex partner by a couple of gay people, and that is exactly what it boils down to. They wish they could avoid the discrimination too. They act like I am a sell out, but in reality they wish they could do the same.

To my understanding gay people and staight people can have a variety of ways to comprehend bisexuality.

Staight people:

1. Are okay with bisexuality, but chose not to be bisexual or gay.

2. Totally against any form of interest in the same sex what so ever.

Gay people:

1. Are okay with bisexual people and understand that a person can want to be with someone no matter the gender.

2. Think that bisexuals are confused and will one day settle down with a person of one sex or the other, hence should lable themselves according to their partner.

In my opinion I think that option 2 in either case is rediculous. Honestly though bisexuals are not so much attacked by people who are homosexual. Usually they are more understanding as to sexuality, but there are people out there who believe that ultimately most people will settle down with someone and if you're a bisexual woman settling down with a man than they say you are straight because you chase to live a straight lifestyle. Thats just the way some people are. My agrument against that though, is that say a straight man marries a woman; is he going to stop finding other woman attractive just becuase he is married? Not usually is that the case just like if that bisexual woman married a man she would continue to find other men and woman attractive. I think that a person can truely be bisexual. I am. And just because I am currently interested in a guy, that doesn't mean that I stopped finding other men, and women, attractive.

I think people have this idea that to be bisexual, you have to like both sexes equally, and be constantly in relationships with both. Neither of these things are true.

You can have a girl who has only ever dated guys, and who is mostly attracted to guys, but if she still is attracted to girls (despite not having the opportunity to date one), she is still bi. It's the *attraction* that matters, not the "track record".

A lot of monosexual gay people feel that bisexual people are privileged to have the option to pursue a "normal" hetero relationship, not realizing that bi people don't choose who they fall in love with any more than gay people do, and quite often fall in love with the same sex. And straight people paint us all with a broad brush, so that bi people are just gay in their eyes.

I think there are very few true bisexuals - (ie, they like both sexes in equal measure)

I don't think Capt Jack is a particularly fine example either, as he just seems sex obsessed.

The reason its hard to comprehend is that the majority of people favour one sex or the other. Attraction to both is a totally alien concept to them.

I don't like labels but lots of people do and if they don't fit they are not liked. So straight, gay are easy to define but having a foot in both camps can be hard for people to identify with and there for they exclude them. It's not right but it happens,

personally i am bi.

for along time i thought it was wrong. lol

look at me know! lol

but i see why ppl freak.

bein full gay/lez means you only like the same sex.

bein striaght means only opposite sex.

but bein bi.

means both and those ppl out there..

some think bi's should all die just cuz they aren't sure bout it.

like the fact we can go either way at anytime

lol

i'm a bi sexual female and i've found that my gay friends tend to be more excepting. but i've seen that bi males seem to be shunned more than females by both sides.

You will never understand the thinking process of another.