Am I wrong to find this hurtful?

Just a bad choice of words on your friend's part. I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt your feelings, so just give her the benefit of the doubt, go and enjoy yourselves and you'll probably laugh about this in a few years.

No, you're not wrong to feel a little slighted. This is a case where honesty is NOT the best policy, because in this case, your friend hurt her friends by being honest about the fact that you didn't make the final cut for the "real" festivities on her actual birthday.

That is the type of invitation that would prompt this kind of response from me "Oh I would have loved to see you but I'm going to be busy that night". You needn't say what with, but just mail her present to her and let her enjoy her "real" birthday with her "real" friends.

I'd be hurt. She is the queen of insensitive. If you like this person enough to go to the movies with her, just go. If you are really close, sometime when you are alone ask why she wrote that line on the invitations. She could have said, as you know, my birthday is Friday but I can't go then. Or just not say anything.

If she isn't the type to listen and learn, just drop it. Drop her if this happens a lot.

Sounds kind of weird, but at least she's being truthful. Maybe she feels as though you would enjoy the cinema better. Maybe she's doing something a little more risque on her birthday and you wouldn't want to be involved.

Should she invite all her friends to both events even though that may well be too many? If there are too many for the other event it may not be possible, so she has had to select which ones go to which or give up the other event entirely. It's not reasonable to expect her to do that.

It's her day, not yours.

Having said that there is no right or wrong to finding it hurtful - that is an individual question.

She put that on the invitation? That's rude. I would confront her and ask her why she put that on the invitation if she wasn't inviting you. You have every right to be offended. But just because you're offended doesn't mean you should be rude back to her.

People are allowed to have different groups of friends.

Having your knitting circle go to one event, while your fellow soccer-nuts do something else is fine.

The fact that there is a blatant comment about 'other friends' is unkind and possibly rude.

Forgive your friend and realize that maybe he/she would score lower on a test for tact than you would.

I would be hurt. I don't think it was at all necessary to include that line. It's like she just wanted you to see that she is with her "other friends" on her actual birthday. Sounds like an immature person to me.

You wouldn't really put that your doing something else with other friends on an invitation lol. tut tut!

You might feel hurt because your jealous in a way.

I would be both lol

Well isn't she special to want her birthday celebrated on more than one day because her actual birthday is reserved for other friends.

No, your not wrong to find it hurtful, because it is insulting.

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