How long do you think it will last until I lose it?

When you're ready let me know. I'd love to help you with your fantasy.

No one can tell you how long except yourself. However, your statements do lead to other questions. You said you are 23, but how old were you when you got married? When did you become pregnant? "...but I cannot get past my trust, respect, and loyalty issues." - sounds like there was an event, or events, that happened to cause you to feel this way. Have you discussed it with him? And what was his attitude? Wanting to get hit on or picked up by a stranger makes me think that you might have gotten married too young and feel you have missed out on many things. Or that you now feel you are in a dull rut and want some excitement in life. Suggestion: put down on paper all the negative things you feel right now and try to find out why that is; let your husband know exactly how you feel, not just that you want it to "work"; be honest with yourself and him; if need be, talk to a clergyman, a counselor or a person whom you can trust. I don't know if any of it will help you or not, but I wish you well.

There is a huge difference between "wanting it to work" and DOING THE WORK.

Have you read any books on trust or forgiveness?

Have you been to therapy alone or for couples?

Have you really been open with each other regarding your feelings using non confrontational methods?

If not it is time to get to work not wishing it will.

Things do not happen because we want them.

Another good book is "After The Affair" by Janice Spring. Very inexpensive compared to the alternative. Although this is not specifically marital infidelity you are acting exactly like a betrayed partner.

REALITY, issues left unresolved end up simmering to a full boil in time. Get some help dealing with your own issues then get him involved in the repair or dissolution.

Either way you need to get working on some resolve.

Trust is the main issue for every one of us specially married couples.

If trust become an issue and you are falling out of love and no longer extract to him than there is no reason to stay married.

He cheat is is ground of divorced.

You with hold sex is also ground of divorced.

Life should live happy.

Why do you have trust, respect and loyalty issues? Something he did, didn't do? This, of course, is the root of your problem. To fix it, you're both going to need some serious marriage counseling. You want it to work? Lose the time line and get busy!

If you really want it to WORK

than how about starting accepting him and not turning him OFF IN BED

money is not an excuse to leave your husband

Marriage is for good and BAD times

gl

First, get a job. Then decide if you can stay in it. Then decide if your relationship is worth staying. If not, leave. Best of luck.

He is better off without you

For better or worst.