Pregnant with the flu, husband left to ski while I'm left with toddler? No call yet...?

No the answer isn't to leave as I've just read. I can honestly see both your point of view. I think in fairness, it was an unforeseen circumstance and your husband really does need the break. I also don't think he had time to think it through this morning. Hopefully he will come to his senses and make it up to you when he gets back.

while i have a lot of compassion for the vulnerability of a pregnant woman, i must say there is something that does not sit well with me. you come across as a whiner. you are pregnant with your second child, which means you have some experiences with your husband's behaviour. if there are things about this illistration of your life, which does not look right - then change it. if you were to re-read this story, with an objective mind, what advice might you give. stop complaining about your situation, because it is you who decided it was a good idea to work 2 jobs while you are pregnant, get up with your child at night and allow your husband to go on a day away (because he needs a break). i have to wonder if you are just venting, but not saying a word to him. remember, you are teaching your children what they should settle for and how men and women treat one another. good luck.

Yes, he can change, but only if he wants to. NO, you are not wrong to be pissed. Stay home until you get better and make him do EVERYTHING, including wait on you hand and foot. Tell him how you feel about his leaving you when you were so sick.

I hope he ends up with the flu.

If my husband ever leaves me pregnant and sick to go skiing, you know where he can find his belongings when he gets back, don't you?

I would have been so hurt, disappointed and humiliated that he chose a trip over pregnant sick me. That would show me just how little he loves me. I would never even dream of leaving my husband sick to go on a pleasure trip.

He's self absorbed, selfish and despicable. He not only showed you that he cared NOTHING for you -- him leaving you alone and sick with a toddler shows you that he cares little or nothing about them or their well being as well. No person with an ounce of compassion, morality or ethics would abandon their family at a time like this.

I'd suggest rethinking staying with someone that's this disgusting.

Obviously you both have different ideas about responsibilities. How is it that you can find 2 jobs, but he can't find one? and yet he still complains about "babysitting" although you don't babysit when it is your responsibility. it's called being a father. A real straight forward talk is in order, he needs to be a man and take care of his family.

I would let him know how I felt. But that is sad. I wouldn't leave my wife at home sick and she is carrying my child. I wouldn't care how long I am in the house. It's still a house that you all created and he should be able to stay there without problems.

I wouldn't leave him but I would let him know how I felt. If he gets mad let him know that you don't have to take that and you would leave. Also, remind him of his child support obligations.

Why are you waking up and getting your daughter ready in the morning? Stop doing it, let him handle it. You are taking on too much, no wonder you are sick.

As for being pissed, I would be to. And let him know it when he gets home.

He is NOT going to change. Is he even looking for a job? What are you planning to do when the baby is born? You can NOT work 2 jobs and take care of a newborn.

Sounds like He is just worried about him self..even if he had plans he should of stayed if he cares about you .he is a very selfish person...You need to put your foot down......Well whats good for the goose is good for the gander you know what i meen.....I would give him a piece of my mind when he gets back...