If the bride's family pays for the wedding, does she get more guests?

A perfect host would split things evenly. Ideally, the family is hosting because they are happy for both the bride AND the groom, and are not doing it to show off to their friends or control the details of the wedding. A good host does not use the excuse "I am paying" to tip things in their favor.

I think the brides family should first give 100 invites to the grooms family. If they only use 75, then the brides family could use 25 and make sure to tell the grooms family they have invited more (to avoid extra last-minute invites). This is the way a good host would proceed with the invites.

Good luck and have fun planning your wedding!

PS. I agree with "help this please" answer, and who exactly is being invited should also be considered. At the end of the day, you and the groom should be involved in BOTH sides guest list. Stay in touch with both sets of parents about who they are inviting, and how *important* it is to invite that person, and dont forget your friends and guests too. 200 is lot of guests, Im sure youll fit in all the most important people in your lives.

No. It should be equal in the TYPE of people. If the bride has a lot more family of the same relation, then that wouldn't be equal, so fair would be inviting all first cousins, for example, regardless of how many. If bride or groom has hardly any first cousins, then a compromise could be made to include 2nd cousins for that side of the family. Friends are friends, and should be equally split unless it doesn't MATTER to the partner. Talk it over and figure out who is really important to BOTH of you to have and go from there, adding guests, and BE FAIR and understanding. Starting out a wedding where things aren't equal is a bad thing. Don't do it, don't even suggest it.

It is not right to say you get more guests because your family is paying. That could mean cutting out a portion of the groom's family if he has a large family. What you should do is each of you make a list of everyone you want to invite. Then if it is more than what you have allotted for, you start taking people off the list if they don't need to be there. If you say you get more guest, it could be you are inviting your yoga instructor but he can't invite his cousin because he only gets so many people. It's not right.

I do have more guests coming, but only because I have a huge family and his is relatively small, but we are inviting an equal amount of non-family members to the wedding. You really have to make sure the people that NEED and SHOULD be there are invited before you start adding your acquaintances or the people you would LIKE to have there.

well my family is paying and i have significantly less guests, because i have less people to invite

but with family and friends we're only at about 125 guests, so i can't imagine having a hard time keeping it under 200

for some reason it seems rude to say "i get 125 you get 75", though i kinda get where you're coming from

i would say if you both have that many people that NEED to be there, aka, you're actually close to them or at the very least you've met them and you can't keep it bellow 200, find another venue rather than saying my guests are more important than your guests...

of course if your fiance is cool with it then it's fine