Do my husband and I have any chance of being able to adopt?

Social services remove children from their parents for lesser reasons in the UK so if you were here it would be very unlikely you would be able to adopt here. Due to your husband's health issues no I don't think you should adopt but I don't know legally if you could or not where you live.

I am the bio-child of and raised by my mother who suffered most of her adult life with mild schizophrenia. Being raised by a mentally ill parent (no fault of the parent, it happens to the best of us), is/would be challenging for any child who's natural parents have a mental illness. But this is a natural family and sh!t does naturally happen. Your husband has way, way too many mental issues to be adopting a child, any child, from anywhere. And no mental condition/illness can be guaranteed to be "well-controlled" by medication. Schizophrenics, manic-depressives are notorious for stopping their medications, because they 'feel good' with a false sense of *cured*.....sooner rather than later the fall-out occurs without medication and the regime has to start all over again..sometimes even involving durations of hospitalization. Not the least to mention the *scary* events that will happen, that a child can be traumatized by, when the mentally ill person is off their meds.

I believe it quite selfish of you, to even entertain the notion of wanting to bring a stranger child into your household. Honestly I feel sorry for your husband...he suffers immensely. But why would you want to bring any child into your household so that they will become part of the 'suffering'? Adoption is about the needs of the child...and no child "needs" to be adopted by a mentally ill parent/s. Evidently you are still quite young, since you are in school...maybe you should do more research on your husband's mental illnesses and the effects on children living under the same roof. And the blood-clotting disorder...is that Hemophilia or where his body creates clots, therein causing danger to heart, lungs, or brain? Either one is most dangerous to the person who suffers from these disorders as well. I know, I have a grandson with Hemophilia and a 37 yr old son (it is his son who has Hemophilia) who now has a 'net' in his abdomen to catch clots before they move to his heart, lungs or brain. My son already has had the experience of a clot moving to his lung..he was extremely lucky, it was very, very small and did not kill him. A clot in the lung can kill a person in 60 seconds or less. So with all the mental and physical illnesses your husband has...seriously.....how can you even contemplate adoption???

you're staring at <$one thousand for a criminal expert to report the workplace work and ensue for a listening to or 2 if relatively everyone seems to be cooperative. A kin criminal expert might desire to be waiting to respond to all your questions and supply you their expenses and an approximate value. The organic and organic father might might desire to sign away his rights and his prize for that's he now no longer has to pay any destiny baby-help and you will possibly be able to desire to sweeten the deal and grant to drop the winning due help. You new husband might then grow to be one hundred% legally in charge for them. Which to me could be insane and is plenty previous something you may lifelike ask of him. yet whilst he's /volunteering/... that is his existence to **** up.

I know you dont want to hear this but you dont have a good chance. Your case worker will have a hard time overlooking your husbands issues even if they are controlled and even if it somehow does pass and you get your profile in front of a birth mom they will not like that at all.

And yes you must be honest with them. As a birth mom myself, I wanted to find the best family I could that didn't have any of the struggles that I had (fairy tale I know but its your baby..you have to dream the family will be perfect, even the hardest of moms turn to mush when they feel that baby move in them) and they will not give you a chance once they know about his issues..they dont wanna hear how well is he is or how controlled his syptoms are. If we want to be honest, he has alot of things that could take him from a family (heart problems and such) and no one wants to put their child in that kind of situation

I'm truly sorry thou.

I'll skip the lecture that others very rightly gave you and simply say that, honestly, it is VERY doubtful that you would be approved to adopt. No social worker in their right mind would approve you to adopt with all of these issues. I really do wish you well. I know that you want a child, and I know what that feels like. But, as others have said, adoption is about meeting the needs of the child, and unfortunately your family genuinely seems unable to do that.

I doubt it. A child free for adoption has already lost parents, it's cruel to put them at increased risk of losing another

Why don't you adopt a highway? The fresh air and exercise would do you both good.

Adoption is about helping children in need. Children who have already lost a family, must be given every chance to gain a stable, loving caring home. These children have already lost their family. They should be given the most stable of families.

If you are capable of having bio-children, then have your own.

I will say it again: Adoption or child placement is about meeting children's needs when their original family could not. It is not about meeting adult needs.

Bio-children might do fine, when born into a family with some medical issues, but adoptive children should not have to add that to the issues they will already have to deal with. It isn't fair....to the children.

Perhaps.

They should bar you from being able to adopt. Adoptees have special emotional needs that "bio" kids do not. They certainly do not need to be placed into a home with a parent(s) who have serious mental illnesses, or potentially life threatening conditions, controlled or not. The LAST thing an adoptee needs is to lose yet ANOTHER set of parents.

eta for op: me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me. Yeah. That's how your edit read. Again- adoption is not about what YOU want.