will my toddler understand longer term consequences?

Consequences need to be more immediate and related the incident. In your example it might be more useful to have your daughter put away the toy she is playing with before being allowed to take out another. That way in the evening, when she (and you) are tired the area is already picked up.

No, they aren't going to understand this. Toddlers have almost no concept of time for one thing. Which is why they are always coming back and asking 5 minutes later for something you said you'd do in an hour. For her 'tomorrow' doesn't mean a whole lot. With toddlers you have to basically react right away or you've missed the opportunity. She is big enough to have a routine though and if you are consistent with her you this shouldn't be too big of a problem. Just remember kids don't want to do things that they will be yelled at for, with toddlers the you'll catch more flies with honey... very true. So if you yell at her or get mad at her she will associate you being mad with picking up her toys and that's the opposite of what you want. Try and make it fun for her and help her pick up they are far more likely to do this if you are as well, praise her if she puts stuff away if she sees it makes you happy she'll be happy about doing it. Be consistent with her.

I would say no. Consequences need to be more immediate at that age. My 6 year old neice is learning longer term consequences and even she forgets, and she's very smart for her age.

I would say BE REALISTIC. At age 2 she's still learning. So i wouldn't just say "pick up your toys...or else...." Instead i would make a game out of picking up. Sing the song "this is the way we clean up our toys..." and do it WITH her. No sense in punishing for something that she shouldn't be fully obligated to do yet. Now when she gets older, then yes, picking up your toys by yourself should be a fairly easy task, but for a 2 year old, it's still a learning process.

Also, taking all of a 2 year olds toys away because she doesn't pick them up is a pretty harsh punishment for a toddler. No matter what she did. If you want to use that kind of consequence, just pick one favorite toy to put up for an hour or so, but not all of them.

While your toddler may grasp some concept of time (such as we're going to the park tomorrow), she probably doesn't understand long term consequences. My daughter turned 3 in december. She can understand some simple long term things like "Grandma is coming over tomorrow". But she doesn't understand that if she misbehaves tonight, grandma won't come over to see her. Try to make consequences more short term and gradually move them up to longer terms as she gets older. Good luck

That's not testing behavior - that is developmentally appropriate behavior that is being carried out on the dvd's and full glasses of water because you have not provided something that is equally stimulating for their developmental stage, but appropriate for them to play with. They are in the dumping/filling stage. If you would sit on the ground with your two year old and "play" at putting things back into something he just dumped, he would love that just as well. He is learning, however, that dumping = a great big reaction from you. This rule chart is WAY over their heads. Just be consistent with a few things that you work on at a time. Don't overwhelm them with a whole bunch of rules at once - they will get it but it will take forever. You just emphasize one or two behaviors at a time that you want to address, then move on to the next when they have those mastered. The chart for your daughter sounds demeaning - she should be receiving "girl to girl" talks about real life and how her positive behaviors reward her and her life and her goals. She should not be behaving for "prizes" at this point.

yes she understand it already.

when a kid reach 2, they starting to understand how things works. especially commands.

teach her right and she will grow with lessons and right act. :)