Still an angry adoptee?

Lol....the email wasnt from a PAP called Jamie was it?? Shes on fire with the nasty emails today.

Odd really, I dont find you at all angry........

How dare we ungrateful, angry, bitter adoptees, who so obviously have no life outside of our hatred share our opinion with those who ask? Of course we have the right to be angry. Our lives and our identities were stolen from us, and then they told us that we had to be grateful for that theft.... Go figure.

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My Guess Is You Are Right Where You Are Supposed Be In Your Life, So Just Keep Doing As You Have Been. And Know It's Ok To Feel However You Feel About Anything At Any Time, It's Your Individual Human Right. When You Think About It, The One Who Felt The Need To E-Mail You & Tell You Off Has The Bigger Issues Really. Too Funny!

Continue To Be The Beautiful Human Being That You Are, I Look Forward To Seeing More From You "Kid"!

No Worries..........Gods Speed

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it quite is humorous. i'm no longer sitting right here feeling indignant and bitter approximately my adoption. i'm disillusioned that regardless of each thing those years, people nonetheless have not discovered that adoption hurts people. That they might forget approximately that. If Tiger Lily quite believes that adoption reasons those harms, then why do we nonetheless enable it? the priority isn't that adoptees can no longer circulate on. the priority is that society is DOING those comparable issues TO greater babies. And no person seems to care. maximum "indignant and bitter" adoptees i understand are fairly relaxing, contented people. yet they're ill of watching what grew to become into achieved to them be visited upon yet another era. they're ill of their voices being positioned down by using people tell them to recover from it. they're uninterested in yelling from the rooftops in uncomplicated terms to be counseled that for the duration of uncomplicated terms some young ones experience discomfort and suffering, so we ought to consistently forget approximately it.

Hey, don't let them get to you. You are the one with healthy, rationale feelings that you have learned to express. Yet you still function with joy and happiness in your life.

Many people think adoptees who talk about their feelings; and even first moms in many cases, should be seen but not heard - just grateful for whatever they perceive adoption is. We know differently. One can have righteous indignation about what happened in our lives and help others by sharing our experience and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Zilch!

I think it's only a problem if we can't get past the anger to deal with the rest of our lives. Or we take our anger our sideways on the wrong people and things in our lives. Sure doesn't sound like you do that.

The angry ones are those who think we just don't know when to shut up...

LOL Keep talking - you make alot of sense.

Hell Yeah, You have the right to be angry! Don't you just love it when you when her some one say "grow up" or "everyone has problems" or my personal favorite " stop feeling sorry for your self and get over it".

Don't let it get under your skin! In most cases, the people that are saying these things are just trying to start up some conflicts! I myself had a run in with one of those people here yesterday!

And I guess she didn't like the fact that she was put in her place, because shortly after I spoke my mind, she deleted the question!

What it comes down to is they don't have the slightest clue what there saying! There idea of having a problem is finding out that their local grocery store ran out of their favorite brand of hot dogs!

They don't know what real problems are , they never will , and they need to stop trying to compare their little inconveniences to some one elses real problems.........

Its been said many, many times that in order to judge some one , you need to walk a mile in their shoes! You would think that would of sunk in by now, but I guess that is just to much to hope for..........

yea iam an angry adoptee the non adoptees have been mean to me my whole life and because of that I have no place to live that upsets me I have evry right to be upset about that

You sound like a person with rational thought and rational concerns about being denied your history, heritage and right to express yourself.

Seems reasonable to me to be angry. Sounds like you're using it to change things. That's how revolutions are created--and won.

There's a difference between living angry and using anger to propel progress. I think you belong in the latter group.

P.S. I don't care who you are...those emails are disgusting and uncalled for.

Yes, you do sound that you are angry about being an adoptee... But it should be over now as you have a family and best of all you adopted children. Don't let them sense your anger because it may pass on.

Stay happy and look forward in life. Sometimes, adoptee may have a chance of getting a better life than having the biological parents.

PS. I am at the verge of giving up my daughter to her father (my ex-boyfriend who is married with 3 children) because of his constant harassment on seeking for revenge at me because I got him out of our lives as he was a very abusive man and he is not letting us go. Think about this, if I let go off my child now (though he is true biological father), will she be treated nicely at that family and be happy?

So you're mad about your adoption yet you adopted a child? Isn't that a little bit of...an oxymoron? Hypocritical? Idk..something like that.

People make mistakes. You're not perfect either, nobody is. And it's sh*tty that sometimes the mistakes people make have worse effects on other people than they do on the person who made the mistake, but that's the way life goes sometimes. Nobody says you have to "sit quietly in a corner", but maybe life would be more productive if you accepted people regardless of their mistakes and realize that no matter how awful your life was growing up, there's always a million people worse off than you.

And who's to say your life would've been better had you not been adopted? You don't know that for sure. "What if's" are what drive people crazy. Focus on the future...it'll do more good.

You are what you are. Without anger there is no passion. I actually feel sorry for people who claim to have no anger and act like emotionless drones. Anger can lead to truth if it is focussed. Keep on being you!