I am 25...unmarried, in a relationship for almost 3 years with a 21 year old. if i am not married by now...?

Well first. You have to realise that he is 21. That still really young to get married or even have a child! Also where I come from the average age to get married is around 27, and thats considered young.You still have two years to go. Your still starting your life. Maybe he wants to be in the perfect situation to get married and finally settle down instead of worrying so much about not having anough money. If he loves you the same way you love him then he will look past your 'ugliness' I'm sure your not even ugly!! Also he would never have a child with you if he didnt love you. So just wait a while. He is still extremely young and so are you. I'm sure he will pop the question soon!! Trust me!!

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Haaaaaaa beauty is only skin deep but, ugly is to the bone. If this younger guy has hung out with you this long he SEES your beauty.

True beauty comes from within! Now, on his behalf he is still pretty young yet. However, I've got kids this age and don't understand them or this generation to be honest with you. I was married at 19 and had 5 kids by the time I was as old as my oldest son is now and he is still just living with a girl.

If you'll allow me to just be flat out blunt with you from what you said this could be your fault and you brought this on yourself. You set yourself up for a fall but, there is a way to make it end the way you want also, if you are willing to make a few changes.

Here's two big problems you need to over come. Number 1 you think of yourself as ugly and you can't afford to do that! Sure just maybe you're not a miss America but, you were still cute enough to attract him! Number 2 guys want to marry someone younger then they are.

The good news is you still have a very good chance to over come these minor issues if you are willing. All you have to do is make him feel like a man and make yourself irreplacable in the process.

If you are really serious and want to marry this guy I'll leave you a couple of links to check out but, if you'll spend some time on this site you will learn a lot reading other posts too.

i dont really see a problem here other than u..

there is no need for a marriage if both of you are already committed.

marriage is just a papaer taht will bind you 2 by law.. which can be broken at any time.

once a couple feels that they are one.. its more than enough.

i have known many couples live together and have kids.. for ova 20 years..

they have never been married nor plan to.. because they dont see a point in

being with someone if there is only a paper holding them together..

a bond is strong wether if u sign the paper or not.. so quit dreaming that

marriage is the only way to keep a man... even after marriage if u disrespect him..

he will still leave u.. so think about it..

Why do you even ask about moving on? So what if other people are getting married. A wedding ceremony isn't a true indicator of a successful relationship. Grow up. Pick your self esteem up off the floor and appreciate your man and child. Everything isn't about you anymore. Be happy. Good luck.

If he is genuinely making an effort to improve his financial state, I would say give him a bit more time. He is, after all, only 21 years old. It seems to me, that you are not thinking things through, or you would not have gotten pregnant before you were sure that there was a permanent future for the two of you. That was a selfish move. You should have considered how a child would feel, if the child had to be raised with its parents living separately. That is very difficult for a child.

You owe it to your daughter to give it every effort to make it work. After all, she did not asked to be put into this situation. You and your bf made that choice for her.

You sound like you are happy with him and things are going great, right?

You are not defined by the fact that you are married or not.

There is no marriage expiration date either.

Carry on and wait until the time is right for both of you. You will see a bunch of your firend ger divorces because they rushed into it and blah blah blah.

Lastly marriage is not the be all and end all, there are many other things to accomplish in life besides getting married.

Honey, my boyfriend and I are both 20. We've been together five years. We're still not married.

All that matters is that you care about each other. I know a ring and a piece of paper saying he loves you would be nice, but if you're meant to be together, it will happen in time.

He's young, he's probably just a bit scared of a lifelong commitment. Give him another couple of years and he'll be fine :)

Why didn't you think of marriage BEFORE having a child? Listen, you can't force someone to marry you. Secondly, it seems you are basing this relationship on the assumption that you think he is the only man who will be with you based on your looks. Don't you have anything else going for you? Do you actually believe men only want a good looking woman? A couple of self-esteem classes and you should be alright.

Grow up!

i am 26 and,i have been dating my girl for 7 years and were still dating, we also have a beautiful 2 year old, to be honest im here for the child, now i know people would say how that's not right, but my daughter is all i have, shes a daddys girl, and her mom strugles with bipolar (pain in the AZZ) ,all you can do is pray and the answer will come to u

honestly to me he is already your husband since you guys already have a life together and sometimes you don't need a paper to tell you that. If it really bothers you then talk to him about it. Also weddings are expensive and maybe that's why he wants to wait for a better job.