I think my husband is cheating... Please tell me how to deal with this! :(?

Well, first off I'm sorry that you have to go through all this. I notice that you didn't once mention how crappy it makes you feel, but I know that it must. The fact that you didn't mention that shows me that you are a good person, who puts others happiness in front of their own, not easy and very admirable. But now you must take your mind off your husband and think about your daughter. Don't be a pushover and let him treat you badly, you must be strong.

Ask him- in the future, when his daughter is a woman, what does he want for her life? Does he want her to get emails from guys like him? To be forever hit on and treated as an object, for her value to be measured in how hott she is? Does he want her to marry a scumbag that cheats on her and treats her like crap? Or does he want her to be self respecting, strong, confident and loyal?

Basically, all those other women that he talks to are someones daughter, most of them have daddy issues...I couldn't let my daughter or son see my husband treat their mother with such disrespect, kids internalize that. Your husband needs to do some serious reflecting on what kind of man he wants to be. The weak man that is controlled by sexual urges or a strong man that his family can look up to and rely on. I hate to say it, but you may need a break till he sorts himself out. If he can't then you are strong enough to go on without him, either way do what is best for your daughter!

good luck

Use a condom because you might catch something from him as a result of his cheating.

I think you are in a bit of denial and I don't say that to offend you at all. I think you are just being naive about this. Your husband is actively seeking other women to cheat with...the chances are that he probably has had a physical affair already. Even if he hasn't gone as far as physically cheating, he is cheating in every other way and lying about. I would get out of this marriage as fast as possible, especially since your child is still young and won't feel the affects of divorce if you wait until she is older and understands more of what is going on. Your husband needs some serious counseling to improve his character and trust. It doesn't sound like he has any intentions of really doing that based on the way her reacted when you confronted him.

What I'm really surprised at is the number of people who told you the truth about him (ratted him out). Usually people are hesitant to get involved in issues like this because it can ruin friendships and cause a lot of drama (as your husband said, he wanted to beat his friends a$$ for snitching on him). This tells me that he is probably being extremely open about his waywardness and people are seeing that he is just a cheating dog and you deserve much better.

Get some personal therapy to help you move on. I'm sorry you are going through this.

When me and my husband first got together (we had been dating for about 4 or 5 months), he had slept with my sister - You should have never married him.

PS - Use a condom.

so I can move on from this and we can make our marriage stronger - I think it is silly to think that an affair can make a relationship stronger. If anything, it makes the couple be together all the time, because one doesn't trust the other. That isn't necessarily making it stronger, but making it like a prisoner/jailer type of relationship.

I wasn't going to read this since it is so long but as I started reading this it became interesting.

look, i think your problem is that you don't want to accept the truth. better yet, you don't want to accept the truth because you don't know what to do if you are faced with the truth. In your case it is a slam dunk to me. He is cheating on you because a) he knows he can get away with it ( what are you going to do? leave? he doesn't think you would) and b) you believe his apologies and c) you always forgive him.

Think to yourself and say do you deserve better than this? Do you want better than this? because as you get older you are going to have a harder time leaving him and also you will start accepting his behavior because you would have no choice.

In your situation? I would sit down and give him an ultimatum. One more strike and you are out and follow through.

I hate when women are weak like you. do you think he is be all and end all? You are young. Go out there and do what you have to. You deserve better than this guy. Set an example for your child! Do you want her to be treated this way?

And that is some sister! With family like that who needs enemies!

I hate to say it but you need to move on.....it does not sound like he is ready to stay committed to one person....He also has some intentions of having sex with someone other than you and that can be dangerous for you if he's not wearing a condom and even then....condoms don't really protect you from diseases.

If he hasn't done it so far, it's not because he hasn't wanted too or tried....he's going too! And I'm a guy..so take it from me!

As far as making your marriage stronger? please don't fool yourself, it will only bring heartache and un-due drama to your life then later on down the road you will feeling like I did and say what the hell was I thinking.......trust me! It's not worth it!

Nice guys don't sleep with their girlfriend's sister.

Nice guys don't answer ads to sleazy girls on craigslist.

Nice guys don't post their own ads on craigslist trying to pick up sleazy girls.

I hope to hell that you wear a condom with him...otherwise, your first stop should be the doctor to get tested for any STDs possible. He's probably a walking cesspool.

You're in denial. He's not a nice guy. He's a piece of crap who lies and manipulates you because he knows you're too weak to stand up for yourself. But not only is he disrespecting you and your relationship, he's also disrespecting your daughter and your family as a whole.

Get rid of him. That's how you can move past this.

You would wear a condom because he might have something you can catch. I won't preach at you, you know better than any of us what he's done to your family. If you REALLY don't want a divorce, then counseling is your only option. But, you need him there as well. Set boundaries in the relationship and stick to them about what's acceptable and what's crossing the line. Good luck and remember to think about your kids and the environment they grow up in. They KNOW if your miserable.

Its not going to get any better as long as he continues to lie to you. Has his faults? He cheats, he lies and he sounds like he is a pervert. Stop being so sweet every time he apologizes which seems to be a lot. He knows that is all he has to do and you will forgive him. He is manipulative and devious.Tell him you are going to leave him if this happens again or anything like it. Don't fall for his lies and do not be sympathetic to him, he feeds on that. You need to put your big girl panties on and stand up to this idiot or he will continue to do this again and again. I personally would not want to be with anyone who slept with my sister. That's disgusting and it will never go away.

I think you are a TROLL.. But just in case..Leave him.. He is cheating on you or he is going to..

Shame on your sister for sleeping with your boyfriend and even if you only know that they made out before you got married.. That is still enough proof that I would be so p*ssed at my sister that I wouldn't speak to her for a long long time.. and I wouldn't have married the guy..

You are an idiot.. and you are living in denial..

This is BS. There would not be so many of your HUSBAND'S FRIENDS coming to you to confess all of this stuff. If you had said your friends.. or neighbors.. or mutual friends, that would make sense. But if you husband hasn't double crossed any of these people, they wouldn't feel an obligation to confess about a party. "His friend texted me to tell me he had a party and tell all his friends not to tell me.. " GTFOH!!! Why would HIS friend text you to tell you that?

Also, "I don't appreciate you throwing parties when I'm out of town.." REALLY?? Your husband isn't a teenager who needs parental permission to have friends over. I had to shake my head over that part of your story. If this isn't fake, I feel saddened for the husband.