How can I get over feeling like this?

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I am a grown man.. 27 to be exact.. but unfortunately I live a pretty dull life... I go to work, but hardly ever have anything to do (working for the state) so I sit there and twiddle my thumbs all day doing nothing productive and letting my mind wander... then I go home to no pets, no girl friend, no friends that are able to do anything (all my friends are married with children).. I don't have any hobbies, no real passion in life.. but one thing has always been for sure.. my parents have always been a 10 minute drive or less away.. my parents believed in me more than I beleived in myself.. they are still more confident in my abilities than I am.. but now, they are both retired, and they are moving out of the state... I am happy for them.. I really am, but now, the only thing I look forward to in life is gone.. it's a sad thing that seeing my parents is the only thing I enjoy in life, but it's true..  Anyway, I need to stop crying at some point between now and when they leave at the end of the month.. but I can't stop feeling like I am being abandoned.. I feel like a lost damn child and I hate it.. anyone have any advice on what I can do to stop feeling this way?

RWPossum · Accepted Answer

You sound like a confirmed bachelor, although sometimes it's hard to tell.  There are considerable disadvantages to that, but it's not without advantages.  You have a lot more freedom than a married man.  They often recommend pets for lonely people, and for some, a very small animal that doesn't require much care is good.  Personally, I think contact with people is more important, and I often recommend volunteer work, which offers a sense of accomplishment.  Hobbies are OK, but I think what really makes life interesting is responsibility.  A lot of people shy away from responsibility, which is sad.

What I suggest most of all is that you don't worry about the rest of your life.  Thinking about the problems you have now will take care of your future problems.  Take things one at a time -- a day at a time, or a morning at a time if you have to, or 5 minutes.

I'll give you some good sources for volunteer information and depression info

Yahoo! Local
Craigslist
Volunteer Match
Google
local newspapers
tips for volunteers on the web

Finding the work that's right for you can mean a lot.

http://englishtom4you.com

Anonymous · Answer

You need to find a way to live your life for you! I know that's easier said than done. How about getting a rescue cat? You guys are sort of in similar situations...in need of rescuing anyway. Have you ever thought about joining a dating site before? I know they are lame, but what have you got to lose? How about finding a new hobby or taking a class at your local community college? Everyone has a calling, you just have to be willing to listen. Life will continue to happen all around you, whether you choose to participate or not! So, hey stop waiting in line... jump on and enjoy the ride. If for some reason you don't like it...there are always lots of rides at the circus. Life really is a circus man...don't spend your life being scared of the clowns...get off your *** and walk that tight rope! Mom and Dad want you to be happy, you want to be happy! Sometimes, for some people happiness doesn't just happen. Sometimes it has to be found! And for some it requires a little pill. Talk with your doc too. Maybe all that you're feeling isn't a 100% your fault!

betchimightbe · Answer

i can't help you stop feeling like this, its something that will go away in its own time. but you can start by getting a pet, and you should. a puppy's love is unconditional and it will provide you with the company you lack right now. besides, its a great way to meet people (dog parks etc.)

Zampurao Tambuwale · Answer

get married

Anonymous · Answer

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