Do you believe relationships ultimately last...?

I know so many happy couples who have been together for a long time- some over 40, 50, 60 years. Love CAN fade, but it doesn't mean it always does. Of course some people cheat, but more people don't. I have a huge chance of getting into a car accident today, but it doesn't mean I'm going to stop driving myself to work. With anything, you're taking a chance. With love, you work on your relationship and pick a suitable partner, then you don't worry about cheating and divorce. I pity you. You seem very young to be so bitter and jaded. It must be quite sad to feel so negative about things.

Well, when approaching a conversation about relationships and what works and doesn't and what makes a person happy or not, women and men think on different lines. So that in itself is a problem to keep it consistent with happiness all the time. We just have a different idea than women on what happiness is.

Happiness is just a state of mind. IT DOESN'T LAST FOREVER. and you hit it right on the nose about cheating. i was arguing with my friend months ago about how I would bet against again relationship lasting 30 years and over that it lasted without somebody cheating.

But being in that kind of relationship is more like a business. You have to decide if who want to be around for a long time and if the mistakes they make (cheating could be one) is enough that you can handle it.

However, this brings me back to the point of attraction and physical attraction as being kinda of worthless. And love fades in and out. That is life. People change. I feel you on the friends thing. Only when a relationship ends and goes crashing down do you really get a grasp of how distant you are from your friends.

But i feel its worth the gamble. I have hope (im 34) i will get married again. And im optimistic it will last. I might fall in and out of love. but when i do get married again i know it will be a person who excites me in every way. And also im so sick of answering question from women well they are just my friend and i don't want to date my bestfriend.

I mean you are asking me as a guy would i rather spend my whole life lonely working on my career with no lifetime partner to enjoy it with, or spend my life off or on in love, having somebody to go to bed with every night and not worried about being out late at night, who im going to meet? ill take the gamble of marriage. any day of the week. where do i sign.

Despite the statistics we're all still living in a dreamworld where people get married for ever after.

Everyone knows the perfect couple just like everyone knows someone who smoked 80 a day and dies at 104. Yes couples used to stay together - they had to. And women had 'hysteria' in those days too.

People stay together for lots of reasons and not always for happiness , kids, security, consistency, obligation, fear. They should change the marriage vows to 'until I can't stand it anymore!'

It's a pity to stay alone though. I think it's better to just look for experiences you love and spend time with people you like spending time with for as long as it lasts. It's a pity people can't be more honest with each other and themselves.

Life’s not perfect and offers us nothing but a chance. So we smile on the good days and console each other up on the bad days, mend each others wounds when we are hurt and find comfort in that we have someone in our life who cares and will be with us till we are no more. It’s not perfect, but it’s enough.