Parents, when you see another child at your child's school or daycare who is wearing?

Where I live there are people who are desperately struggling. There are also people who have money but choose to get the most out of everything the own. Unless the child were continuously struggling because of what he's wearing-- holey shoes in the snow or something-- I wouldn't say anything. People have a right to live the way they want to live, and worn clothing isn't anything that needs intervention. Even in the case of the child with the holey shoes, I wouldn't say anything to the parents. I'd ask the teacher if she thought there was a need and I'd leave a pair of boots anonymously with the teacher.

Everyone has a right to their pride.

Even if I knew for certain that a family is poor, I wouldn't say anything to the parents. I grew up in a family with limited financial means. Just because somebody doesn't have a lot of money doesn't mean that they don't have any pride. It hurt my feelings and made me feel bad when somebody made comments about the state of my clothes, even if the person was just being compassionate. I only got one pair of shoes per year and usually, after only 6 months, there was a hole in the front of my shoe where my big toe was. Also, I remember having to wear a turtleneck in the summer because I didn't have summer clothes. My teacher made a remark about it. I will never forget how that made me feel!

If you want to help out, you can do so anonymously or in a way that doesn't put the family's financial situation on the spot. One year, I gave my child's entire fall/winter wardrobe that she had outgrown to the school (I called the principal first). The principal knew which families needed the clothes.

I have never noticed what others were wearing unless it is inappropriate. Some kids even purposely put holes in different places while trying to achieve a look of some sort. A dirty winter coat means the kid was outside playing, that's pretty good for them and the parents haven't got the time to wash them every day. Maybe the kids are hard on cloths so they use old stuff because it doesn't matter how much they kill them. No, I don't believe I judge or even notice what other kids are wearing for the most part. What I do see and judge is that toddler who is running around with food all over their face. Nasty looking and it only takes a minute for the parent to wipe that crap off. They don't because it's a personality trait. Lazy parenting.

at the same time as i do not trust how she dealt with it, I do imagine she had the right to be disillusioned. no longer a lot over the garments because they do wash, yet when I were to look to %. up my baby from an section the position i'm figuring out to purchase and the guy become interior doing dishes truly then outside supervising, i'd be rather mad about that. more effective than probable that is what she become disillusioned about and then only considered something else to throw on the flame to take her anger out. next time, per chance have some extra swimming wear for the youngsters who did not carry any, and keep the dishes till each and each of the youngsters are despatched domicile :)

My daughter had a jacket that was almost falling off of her, but she insisted that she had to wear it.

If you are concerned that a child in the school or daycare is under dressed for the colder weather right now, you might consider speaking to the principal or director about a coat drive, or donating some mittens and hats. The school or daycare would know if the family is in need, and then the child in question could be adequately outfitted, and the parents would still have their pride.

Having worn out clothes or shoes does not mean abuse or neglect. Kids are rough on clothes. As long as the clothes and shoes aren't full of holes it's fine. Just because the parents can't afford new shoes every time a kid scuffs their shoes on the playground or playing a sport doesn't mean they aren't taking proper care of their kid.

Also maybe the kids prefer it that way. My family was pretty poor. We could afford new clothes but I refused to go shopping with my mom. My clothes fit just fine and didn't have holes, if they were a little older I didn't care, they fit and weren't falling apart so I saw no need to waste our money on new clothing even if my mom said we had enough money to do so.

Having children who each have their own unique sense of style, I would never presume anything about another child's clothing. Anyway, what would you say in that situation that would improve things?

If I knew a family was in need of help, I would have no problem approaching the school psychologist or counselor if I knew I was in a position to help. They are more able to present whatever I was able to give without making the family feel singled out or uncomfortable.

I mind my own business.I remember once,my partner kept getting this one pair of jeans out for our son to wear.No matter how many times I told him "They're too small",he just kept doing it.I even put them in the bag of stuff to be donated to charity and he still got the damn things out.While we may neglect our own clothing needs because of lack of cash,our son is a different story - he always has an appropriate wardrobe for the season,even if it is limited at times.Besides,I wouldn't expect to see kids wearing 'perfect' condition clothes.My son is really rough with his things - he's just discovered how fun sliding onto his knees is lol - and all of his 'play' clothes are looking a bit knackered.He has a few nice outfits that I keep back for special occasions.If you are concerned,then talk to the head teacher about bringing in stuff.They will know who to get it to.I used to take in old clothes to my sons nursery and I told them they could either use them as spares or give them to somebody who needed them

I do not assume anything. I do know that my kids go to school with a lot of poor kids. I have donated clothes and shoes. The teachers know who needs what and makes sure that they get it. We also have a family center in town that gives free clothes to those in need. I also donate there.

Say something? You mean like wow kids wear out their shoes fast don't they? Cause they do you know... if a child is poor are you gonna point it out and make them feel worse? If the child and their clothes are clean then MYOB!!