How can i get my mother in law out of our lives?

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Okay here is the situation me and my wife decided it was for our best interest to exclude her mother from our lives. Everytime they talk they get into an argument and it makes her feel like a bad mother. Her mother is emotionally abusive intrusive and just for lack of a better term crazy. The problem is is that she is completely obsessed with our son and refuses to leave us alone because of him. Well we never gave her our home address for this very reason and sometime last week she showed up at our door like a stalker. Her and my wife got into another fight and her mother starts claiming grandparents rights. Im sick of it ever time this woman is in our life she causes drama like a high school teenage girl and when she doesnt get her way she throws a fit and threatens stupid legal actions that dont even make sense. Im afraid that if the leagal things don work out for her she will just start harassing us with dfs showing up at our door all the time and just in general push me to my breaking point. My wife and i are just wanting her out of our lives and to stay away forever. Is there a legal way of getting her out of our lives besides a restraining order because we already tried that and the judge denied it saying that he doesnt believe her to be a true risk to our safety. So is there any other way to get this mentally suspicious woman out of our lives (legal answers only or advice i dont want to hear just kill her or any other crap like that.)

aorthianarcher · Accepted Answer

Was her showing up at your doorstep (without having been given the address by you guys!)  before or after the application for the restraining order?  Because that is definitely stalking behavior.  You should probably find out where she got the address and see what other information has been leaked.  At the very least, she is trespassing on your property and likely disturbing the peace if the fighting is loud or outside the residence, both of which would be reasons to call the police.  The police being called and her (or her agents) being physically removed from your property will eventually result in her being arrested if she doesn't figure things out.  Is there a father-in-law in the picture?  Can he help in any way?

From what I've read, grandparents rights cannot be claimed unless there is divorce, death, incarceration, drugs, or other terrible things involved where the adult child no longer communicates with their parent AND there is a grandchild custody issue, so I don't think a judge would rule that she has any right to invade your home based on "grandparents rights."  

Below is a link to the grandparents rights website so you can read up on what applies in your state.  

You also have my best wishes and condolences for your situation.  My husband and I are in the middle of a similar situation with my own emotionally/verbally manipulative mother.  Hopefully you are able to resolve things quickly!

Brigitta · Answer

So she lives in her own home. Tell her that both of you are having things to sort out and need 3 moths for that no extra detail -  post the note to her. When she comes don't open the door. If she gets abusive about this tell her you have asked her to give you space.  Tell her go home we want 3 month on our own. She must get into living her own life..stick to three months it's your life!  See how things go..hopefully she will settle down become a friend and a good nana. Good luck.

Heather · Answer

Get a camcorder and have it in plain view next time she comes over. Tell her everything from now on will be recorded. She should behave better during her visits, and you'll have tape to take to a psychiatrist for an evaluation (if that' part is possible -- I'm not sure).

spradlin · Answer

Her mom likely has her confident that she can't deal without her. Your spouse will favor to hit upon how you could deal without mom. This toddler will be round for the subsequent 20 or so years! you should confer including your mom-in-regulation. Be very effective, thank her for all she has performed, yet tell her you want to hit upon how you could do it on your own. Wean her from the administration of the toddler now even as you nevertheless can! that's a unfavourable undertaking on your marriage. reliable luck!

dell · Answer

You and your wife both, go to your police station and take out a restraining order against her. The police will ask question etc. If you both warrant this as urgent, the police can get a JP to sign the papers. They will serve the mother inlaw with the papers. If she continues harassing you, to go back to police. Make sure you have dates, times, any evidence, someone here mentioned a camcorder, anything as evidence. This will be used as evidence for police to take her to court...cheers

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