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What does marriage mean these days? Does it mean what it used to?
My wife and I celebrated our 16th anniversary yesterday. We have three kids together, and it's been a good ride. Yes, we have our differences at times, and there are days where we want to kill each other but we're happy and enjoy what we have. Plus, we understand it's a lot of work to make a relationship go.
Everywhere I turn these days, it seems like people I run into are either not interested in getting married or they are getting divorced. I wonder why this is? Do some people not want to make the effort to make the marriage work, I can live with people not wanting to get married if they don't want to but why get married if you won't work on your relationship? Some relationships I have seen could have been resolved if both parties sat down and worked on it, but it seems like running was the better way for them.
Maybe I'm off-base here. I ask the fine folks of the Marriage-Divorce section of Y/A...is marriage what it used to be or has it changed?
3 Answers
- BAMLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
Marriages aren't what they used to be. Everybody wants instant gratification. Marriages are now looked at as disposable and people don't care about the impact on kids. They are selfish.
Keep in mind that it is usually only one spouse that wants the divorce, not both of them regardless of what you hear.
My wife and I just divorced after 17 years together. We have 2 kids under 11. My wife said she wanted a divorce. I didn't and was willing to work hard. I tried to get her to go to couples therapy and she wouldn't go. She told our kids that we went to therapy and both tried really hard, but couldn't fix things. Lie. I lost 43 pounds, bought her 8 dozen roses, bought her a $1500 diamond necklace and four rooms of furniture. I tried my hardest and am still trying post divorce. My wife has been telling people it was a mutual decision. She is starting to believe that herself...to reduce her guilty feeling, I suppose.
Marriage takes committment. When things aren't going well, it means doing some creative problem solving and taking divorce or separation as options off of the table.
- Anonymous4 years ago
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- 8 years ago
Hi, I'd answer this if I wasnt married. Wondering if you can check and respond to the message I sent you!
