Husband left me.It's Long, Thank you to all that read it and comment :0)?

You have done all you can do. Get away from that situation and look after that child and try and find someone who can appreciate you.

Please don't feel like a fool. I am so sorry as to what you have been through with this horrible man. But he will do it again to this women, just like he did his ex, just like he did it to YOU! Trust me, be grateful you got out of this relationship, you got a car, you got a house, you are independent and you are happy! Unlike him. He will forever continue searching, and searching until he hasn't found nothing at all. The problem is clearly him and not you. It was not you that kept him unhappy it was himself. Don't ever blame yourself for his actions, and no man should bring a single tear, if anything the one is to bring the good in you. His an idiot, and he does not deserve you but yes that really naïve women he is dating now.

See I always think 'well, if she went insecure, controlling and angry what did you do??' What kind of silly women would blame the other? No women goes crazy for anything. Real women I am talking about.

Anyway follow your gut next time, and be happy seriously you are so much better without him.

Say it together now 'Thank F$@k that sorry *** is out of my life'. Everything happens for a reason and just so he gave you your child and made you into a better person. Trust me ignore them, that will piss them right off! :)

Hi! 1st I'm sorry for your roller coaster marriagr however..it is such with someone in active duty. I think you said..he had done 3 tours. Unfortunatly..as MOST of our soldiers just from 1 tour..many many suffer in silence only saying " I'M OK" to everyone while everyone can see they are quiet..anxious..unsteady..unsure..isolating..and so much more. I'm not a Dr or anything close but...I DO believe he loved you the best he could. I'm sure you know how many of our soliders suffer from PTSD and sevear AGXIETY ..& MUCH MORE AND TELL NO ONE..ALONE NO FAMILY MEMBER ..NOR PROFFESIONAL! I am NOT giving him excuses..I'm thinking..2 more tours during your marriage ..making for total of 3 tours. He will CONTINUE to search for a better job..home..new state..new girlfriend..new wife..but he will NOT find real happiness or settled down in his mind..body..nor soul..until he seeks help. I hope someday..as I wish for every single soldier..INNER PEACE AGAIN! See..you..already..though hurt you have found some peace inside again.For him as many soldies..may never feel this again. You WILL find someone again..meanwhile..have fun..continue to laugh and grow..continue to love and watch your child. YOU ARE MAKING IT ALREADY! GOD BLESS

Realize that your gut instinct was true and since then you have been trying to stay with this man for the sake of your child. The next time he threatens YOU with court hearing, inform HIM that you will speak with your attorney and his superiors in the military since adultery is a crime which could have him demoted or kicked out entirely . . . .so he makes trouble for you, he will get it even worse. Collect your evidence now and erase him from your life. The clues were there, and may you should have asked his first wife why THEIR marriage ended.

You need to start taking responsibility for your actions right now. You cannot change someone else's behavior. You can only control your behavior. You got involved with him too quick. You knew it was not right yet you did it and had the poor judgment to have a child with him who is going to suffer for it.

It is not any more right for you to play the victim. The only real victim here is your child and it will be hard but you need to from this point on put her interest first.

Sorry, but you were/are the rebound girl.

This almost never works. It has nothing to do with you, but where he was at. He needed attention, sex, companionship, an ear, etc, etc, and as soon as he got himself back....then he no longer 'needed' you.

In the future whenever anyone is less than say 1-2 yrs from a long relationship, stay away.

Doesn't make them bad people, but they are dangerous getting involved with them.

Good luck.

Your mistake was not listening to yourself. You knew from the beginning he was not right for you. He is still not right for you, you are still not listening, what kind of miracle are you expecting? I understand you want to give your daughter a family, but you are her family, that's it. You can't have the happy marriage picture, not with this man at least, you have two choices, stay with him and give your daughter a crappy childhood and example, or move on, become a better person and give that better person to your daughter, who is the one who deserves your best.

Omg he sounds like a nightmare.

If I were you, I would move....and get as far away from him as physically possible.

I realize this may be impossible as he keeps dragging you into court over stupid things. You may also want to stay put to keep your daughter in her school.

It sounds to me like you actually did nothing wrong from what I can see here. Being a military girlfriend/wife is EXTREMELY stressful in my opinion more stressful for the woman than for the man.

Also, this doesn't sound like your fault at all, but what his ex wife said should have been a huge red flag. Sometimes they are just bitter but it doesn't sound like the case with her....it sounds like she was trying to warn you!

I know a woman who has chained herself to a military guy and every time she signs up for classes in a new area they have to pick up and leave.

It sucks because it is taking her nearly ten years to get her bachelors degree. If he were to leave her she would have no degree or job experience to fall back on. She is basically dependent on him and screwed if he left her.

I bet you have dealt with some nasty military lawyers too. They are about the most misogynist screed that ever existed.

I'd like to say I am shocked he got all the money even though you were entitled for that for the free childcare and house cleaning you offered while he worked but I also know the military.

The military has a few good INDIVIDUALS in it. I happen to be dating one. He is nothing like your ex and actually dislikes how the military is run (he wants to make changes).

But the military as a whole? Evil, no question. I realize this is not a popular opinion but there is no love lost between me and that organization. And until somebody has been raped by a member of the military they have NO idea just how nasty it can be.

And that is when it wants to turn on American civilians. I shudder to think how it treats foreign women.

Personally I stay far far away from enlisted men and advise you to as well. I learned that the hard way too. The ones who are officers are ok. They are more educated and less crazy.

My bf is a 2nd lieutenant with a masters degree. He hasn't let the military warp him the way it sounds like it has warped your ex.

I am not trying to make excuses for him. Nobody forced his dumb *** to join. He KNEW that job was stressful when he signed on the dotted line. That is nothing he can blame on you or anyone else.

I would keep your daughter as far away from him as possible. He sounds toxic and it doesn't sound like he loves either of you sad to say. It's hard to say for sure but him and his new girlfriend do not sound like people a young woman should be around at all.

I wonder if him visiting her at the school is such a great idea. I guess if she wants that then it is fine.

Counseling doesn't hurt, even if she is doing well. Having a father like that is a giant bummer and even the most resilient kid might struggle with that at times.

Hopefully if you are dating, you have learned your lesson and stay away from enlisted men. My motto: enlisted men: no. Officers: hell yes!

Any man that expects a woman to drop everything and tag along with him is a selfish bastard. I would NEVER move for a man, even the one I'm with. I have my own houses and we travel back and forth to visit.

Otherwise we just Skype and write letters. THAT is how a good relationship works.

He also doesn't want me to come overseas with him until I receive my degree. He knows I have a life here and wants me to have a degree before I uproot myself.

That way it will make it easier for me to find my own job once I get there.

THAT is what I real man is like. A real man doesn't put always himself first like a whiny little baby. A real man doesn't force others to bend over backward on his whim. He cares about his partners welfare as well.

Keep that in mind if your back out in the dating field again. Also, I'm glad you aren't giving him the time of day anymore. He is probably just mad because your not giving him attention anymore. Like a spoiled child!

You are way better off without him. You tried to please him and all he did was turn his back on you so I'm not entirely sure what your question was but move on, enjoy your little one and pay no mind to any man statements from that man. He is not worth being upset over. But protect your child from him because he sounds like a loose canon. Good luck and God bless

You better off without him. He sounds lunatic and sick person. He is not a role model for your daughter. Stop taking him back and move on. His past history and behavior tells all. He is not a MAN. Move on.