my baby sitter's sister died 2 days ago due to diebetes. I dont know how to console her.?

Dear Salmah,

Sometimes people just need to know that you are there for them and that you care about the pain they are in. Be a good listener, not so much a talker at first. I will give you a link to a wonderful publication that gives true hope and comfort to those who have lost someone in death, perhaps you can read it then share what you learn or refer it to her.

I wish you both happiness and success

You can't 'fix' this kind of recent grief. You can listen to her and offer human contact, and you can also offer her practical support such as giving her paid time off to attend the funeral and spend time with her family. Reassure her that you understand her needs at this time, and that her job is safe, give her clear guidance about the amount of paid time off you can offer so that she doesn't have to have this added stress.

If she is an important part of your family, you will want to support her of course. Depending on how close you are to her, you could give her a card expressing your sympathy, ask how people can contribute ( sometimes the family requests that people donate to a charity rather than sending flowers).

give her a box of chocolate