Asking for money for a honeymoon?

Asking for money - as a gift - for any event is tacky and very, very rude.

However, this is becoming more and more commonplace. Which doesn't make it less rude.

An invitation to a wedding - traditionally - means that the couple wants someone else to share the day. Nothing more. Gifts are optional and should never be expected, asked for or required. Gifts are the choice of the giver. And gifts should never be specified - whether it's a toaster or money.

If they cannot fund their own wedding - then the wedding should be toned down to what they can afford.

If a couple cannot fund their own wedding and honeymoon - there is no reason others should be asked to do so.

Personally, I give money as a wedding gift as it's easier for me than going out shopping. But ONLY where nothing has been requested. Most people I know do. But I NEVER do - when openly and blatently asked for. I will not give money to pay for the meal, or parts of the wedding or fund a honeymoon. I feel that if I can't afford to take a vacation - I'm not helping someone else do so.

I've had a few of these invitations. Which just sets me off. I either RSVP regrets and don't go or I'll buy a toaster - or some silly thing like that - as a gift - include the receipt. If they want to go to the trouble of returning it to get the cash - then they can.

It's rude to ask for gifts with an wedding invitation.

You do not put registry with an wedding invitations.

It's not okay or right to put a poem asking for money.

The guest gives what they want.

A gift registry is just a suggestion.

If you want to give a gift, then go for it.

Couples should not ask for money for their honeymoon.

Even if most people give gifts for weddings, weddings are not a gift giving event.

If I got a poem like you, I would give 20 dollars.

Maybe a little note saying I was going to by you something that cost more, since you ask for money, here some, enjoy.

Tacky, tacky, and tacky.

I would make a statement by either not attending and sending just a card, or just sending a card.

It is never proper etiquette to ask for any gift, much less cash, and ten times worse if they are asking for it to fund their honeymoon. There are worse things - usually seen in this section- but not by much.

You have a year to give a wedding gift, if you are inspired to do so. Otherwise, it is to be their honor that you would be there to witness their wedding, and the reception is given to thank you for doing so. That is all. A card would be proper. Not a check, just a card. Let them go on a honeymoon picnic.

An invitation is just that

It is requesting you, to attend their wedding and join in the celebrations

An invitation is not about gifts

Gifts are always optional, although most people would give a gift

Personally I feel asking for money for a honeymoon is obscene, but that's just my opinion

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I think that if I received an invitation like this, I would not attend and I would not send a gift. It has nothing to do with how much money they make or how much they're spending on the wedding. Asking for any kind of wedding gift is offensive.

Turning a wedding into a panhandling event is beyond crass. If I was a guest at this tack-fest, the only present I'd bring would be a book on etiquette and manners. I certainly wouldn't be encouraging these greedy people by actually gifting them money.

It is up to yourself whether you give money or a gift but normally most people now give money of around £50 for a wedding gift - personally I think it is an insult asking for money, Good Luck

Tacky I wouldn't send or give money, I wouldn't even go. Nor would I even send a gift. It's rude. If they make good money, they can pay for their own honey mood.

It's rude to ask for any kinds of gifts, and it's especially rude to ask for money while trying to disguise it in a cutesy poem.

You don't have to bring a gift. Gifts are never mandatory.

It is never OK under any circumstances.

What happened to the reputation Brits had for being polite?