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Mom of 2 daughters seems to be really protective?
I am looking for advice of what I can say, and how to approach the mom about ideas on how to handle her 2 daughters.
One daughter who is 11 seems to be having a hard time dealing with the fact her dad (mom and dad are divorced) doesn't want anything to do with the mom and the 2 daughters the mom is taking care of. The dad lived with them through her childhood so she knows him.
The other daughter who is 9 doesn't like her dad, and doesn't really know him because he left when she was younger.
The mom doesn't like the dad either but isn't against them seeing their dad, but again, their dad doesn't want anything to do with them so he ignores phone calls and hasn't seen his kids in a couple years.
The mom seems to be really stressed out about it. Shes REALLY protective of them in such cases where they can't go out of sight from her if they are riding their bikes or go in the back yard if myself or her are out there. The kids just want to play around with each other but when they make noise the mom gets really upset.
The 2 girls seem to come down to the basement room I am renting because I let them have fun. the noise doesn't travel well to the upstairs so the mom doesn't get mad about that but it kind of seems like the 2 girls are prisoners in the house. They never have friends come over i'm guessing because of the potential for noise, which again.. upsets the mom.
Does anyone have any ideas on how I can talk to the mom and explain that her kids need to be kids to stay sane?
I understand it when she gets upset when they don't clean their rooms or fold their clothes or wreck something.. but her anger seems to be over the smallest things.
She does work multiple jobs and has me living here for the rent I pay to help out. I have been fixing quite a bit of things around the house, doing yard work.. etc trying to make it easier but still the mom is acting like she just wants her kids to grow up while she doesn't allow any freedom.
Does anyone have an idea of what i can do.. if anything? Should I do anything about this or just let her raise her kids the way she sees fit?
2 Answers
- Anonymous7 years ago
That poor mom is stressed half to death. She's all alone raising those 2 girls. It's no wonder she's having trouble. She's working herself to death and raising 2 kids. The best thing you could do is offer to watch the girls for her as much as you can. That way the mom can rest and she'll still know her girls are safe.
- 7 years ago
It sounds like the divorce it hard on her, and raising 2 kids alone... I think the reason she is emotionally suffocating her girls is out of fear. She may feel that it is only a matter of time before she loses them like her husband.
I think the best course is to offer to watch them as mush as you can and be supportive of her. At the same time explain to the girls that losing daddy is hurting her and she is scared to lose them too. So that is why she is being the way she is. They are old enough to understand.
