i am getting married in june to my partner of 7 years and 3 children?

Yes you need to grow up a little more, and stand tall, and make your own decisions on this.

If your boyfriend was after your money or whatever, wouldn't he have taken it by now. 7 years is a long time to be with someone.

Now when you say a prenup, are you stating that you get everything and he get's nothing? How is that even remotely fair. I mean I'm assuming that he works and contributes to the household, so what is it that YOU do to think you deserve ALL of it?

Marriage is a partnership and it is work. If you have assets or something that was given to you by your dad or something, then put it in a trust for your children. Otherwise, whatever happens during the marriage should be split 50/50.

You need to follow your GUT on this, and NOT what your sister says. Do you have a stable and healthy relationship with your partner? Do you feel as though you know each other well? Are you up front and honest with each other? If so, then there is no need for a pre-nup. Pre nups are best left saved for Hollywood people. What you have and what your partner has prior to marriage is yours should a divorce occur, unless a judge deems otherwise. If both of you work, then there really would be no problem. Whatever you accumulate after you are married is equally both of yours. Something to think about here, is the stability of your relationship at the moment since you are thinking so much on the 'what if'. You aren't married yet and you are thinking about divorce issues. That really should not even enter into your mind if your relationship is a good one. if the relationship is solid, then infidelity and pre-nups should not even enter into the equation. Something to further think about.

Any woman who refers to me as her partner will never be any sort of wife of mine and even in the dating phase of such a "relationship" only a weak pathetic girlie man tolerates such nonsense. An alpha man either scoffs at such an idea or simply cheats on such a feminazi as this.

In the long run the typical western woman dies alone and unloved .... and probably being feasted upon by her dear feline companions.lol

This statement of yours " if i did make a pre nupt or a will whats then stopping me to have numerous affairs if i was that way enclined knowing my partner or husband wouldnt get a penny," is totally retarded (and I just copy it from your post, so all those misspelled words are yours, not mine). people do not cheat not because they re scared to be left without a penny in case of divorce, people re not cheating because THEY DO NOT WANT TO to begin with, and if they want sometimes they don't because they have decency. obviously u shouldn't get married and especially with the guy with 3 kids. poor kids

No individual can answer this question besides you.

A pre-nup is to protect things that were yours before the marriage. Anything that is gained during the marriage is community property, hence can be split if you divorce.(that will be more than a penny, it will be half of your combined pennies.) So if you have nothing now, then there is no need for a pre nup. If you have assets, then you could protect some of them. It also works the other way, his are protected as well. However you have been together for 7 years, you may wish to consult about the possibility of a common low union. You may already be in one.

The other interesting thing is that your concerned about affairs. So why would you have multiple affairs during your marriage if you had a pre nup? If that is your plan, then don't get married, just stay with your partner until your tired of him. As for the will, you should have one right now and after you get married, make another one. That way your things don't get trapped in a probate for years. Without a will, all of your stuff will go to your husband. That is ir-regardless of a pre nup. The only time that it would not go to your husband is if he killed you, but even then it would take years for your kids or relatives to take that away from him, if he did kill you. So just make out a will, your boyfriend should make one out as well. then just update that when you get married. Also your 401k and IRA's, make sure you have filled out the beneficiary forms. Without that, it all becomes taxable in your estate.