Are chores "even" between me and my spouse?

Put aside your summers off, for a moment, and let's just talk about what you both do when you are both working full time. I assume you also have homework to correct, parent conferences, meetings, etc? So, you both work about 8 hours a day, you both take out the dog (your spouse in the morning, you at night) and you both do grocery shopping. You say your spouse "sometimes" picks up around the house, but surely you do that, too? That all sounds fair enough.

But then you do all of the dishes, make dinner, do most of the laundry, pay the bills, vacuum and clean bathrooms, while your spouse sweeps the floor and "sometimes" cleans the counters. Does your spouse do anything else? Yardwork? Upkeep of the house and car(s)? Take out the trash? Who handles those things? If your spouse is doing that, I'd probably count that toward the balance between you - but if not, then it sounds as if it might be time for your spouse to take on some of the meals, laundry and dishes. Many families have policies like whoever makes dinner doesn't have to do the dishes, or whoever washes doesn't fold laundry, etc. Maybe have one night out a week, so you don't have to cook, if they don't want to prepare food.

In the summer, I can understand if you're willing to take on a bit more, but personally I'd still continue to split the household chores fairly. You shouldn't be stuck with all of the crap work just because you ended up in a profession with more time off - that time off is to recuperate from the stress of the work you do, and prepare for the next year. If your spouse took a month of vacation or sabbatical from their job, I doubt they would appreciate you dumping all the chores on them for the duration.

If you and he are okay with it, it's fine. Doesn't seem unfair or terribly unbalanced to me. You are both free to tweak it, as desired.

You'll be hard pressed to find any couple who is able to equally divide chores that so that each person does literally half the domestic work/tasks. You might have 1 chore and he might have 10, but if your 1 is very intense or time consuming and his 10 are super easy/quick, then it could be that you've got more on your plate than he does. It all depends on how much effort is required to do a particular task, not the number of tasks a person does.

You aren't taking into consideration the mental, emotional, spiritual, and social burdens both you of you have. While it might look like he doesn't do much, he's satisfying more than just domestic chores. Men are always on high alert for threats/predators. They are also ready to diffuse arguments among kids and family. And when it comes to domestic chores, they know that the best thing he can do is stay out of your way until you tell him that you need help (especially if you are a perfectionist).

So give him some credit, he's doing things, you just can't see it.

Sounds like you two need a discussion about chores. If you feel that it is unfair, tell him. Odds are, he will be open to taking one or more chores. Just make sure to be fair and open about it. And, if you are not working in the summers, maybe it is good that you do more? Give him a little break. Like a thank you for doing your job. Talk it out. I'm sure it will go okay. Good luck!

The second you start wondering about the fairness about something as petty in life as chores, that sends off some alarms for me. When you start whining that things aren't "even" and 50-50 in your marriage, it becomes clear that a) you don't get how a marriage actually works. It is almost never is. and b) your marriage is in trouble. You just don't know it yet.

Chores will never be split evenly. Worrying about splitting chores "evenly" usually leads to resentment and break-down of the marriage.

What do you teach, because your grammar is atrocious. Off of is a double preposition. If you are going to nit pick over how the chores are being done, then just divorce the guy. Then you can do everything by yourself, and on half the income.

Heck no, we are more precise. Clean as you go and if he's able to help out chill out and say thank you.

It sounds like you need to sit down with your husband, and talk about your differences.

If you say its not its not...communication is the name of the game