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A psychology issue! I don't know if it is anxiety or happiness!?
I have met someone two months ago. I am in my early 40s and have not been in a long term relationship for a long time. I have indeed collected a series of disastrous relationships - mainly cos I prefer to finish a so-so relationship than carry it on just to have a partner. Now with him I feel really great! He makes me happy and I think I make him happy. He seems normal hurrah!! I think I have met a normal, down to earth, fun sensible man with a good heart and an intelligent mind. All is perfect. I stopped sleeping though! I cannot stop thinking about him, and I am normally a rather calm and laid back woman! Realistically, if things didn't work it would not be the end of the world - we have known each other two months, I would get my life back as it was. So I don't know whether what I feel is fear, anxiety, or just adrenaline from happiness!! Though I have been sleeping 5 hours a night for a week now I am OK during the day, not tired.
I want to enjoy this relationship because it is so much fun! We go see comedy, play music, to gigs, to watch live sport, dance, we do so much together in spite us both having full time demanding careers and being lone parents. Am I going to relax at some point? If this is anxiety will it seep in and break this relationship? How do I start sleeping? I am tempted to get to sleeping pills just to help me cope with this first strange new period of my life!! Anyone been there??
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- Anonymous5 years agoFavorite Answer
It's excitement, the key with excitement, is you need to embrace it(turn it into joy, and happiness), or if you resist it, it turns into anxiety.
A very basic way to help pace your excitement, is to raise your activity-level, work-out, take more walks, even opting to take stairs, instead of the elevator will help you burn-off the excess of energy.
I would advice against trying to numb your excitement with pills, because that again will trigger an anxiety-dynamic(of resisted energy).
- SiennaLv 75 years ago
It's love plus anxiety, which is characteristic of the new love phase.
Don't take medication. It's not a pathology.
Instead, study how to make him happy, how to ask politely and successfully for him to do what you want and not what you don't want, how to negotiate agreement, and how to not destroy the relationship. F ind out what he likes and do it, and find out what he doesn't like and don't do it.