Sometimes I get frustrated with my wife working late hours. Not sure what to do.?

She isn't doing this *to* you, and you need to think about why you resent it.

You could hire a nanny to get them washed up in the evenings- but wouldn't you miss all the time with your kids? Maybe a couple of nights per week would make it seem less of a chore.

There is always a solution, if you want there to be. Aside from not being there to bathe the kids on weekdays, what is the real reason you resent her not being home? If you feel as though you're not getting enough attention, talk to her- but make sure you know what is actually wrong- and what you really want.

Frustration is normal, but it looks like this is how it may need to work in your situation. It's not uncommon for one parent to be more present than the other based on professions and work load.

I get the kids up dress, ready for school and make their breakfast.

My husband drops off our youngest to daycare. The other 3, I drop off at school. We do it this way based on locations of who passes what on their way to work.

All of them I pick up.

All of them I take them to/from anything they need after school, doctor appointments, etc.

I help them with homework.

I get them their baths and ready for bed most of the time.

I get their lunches ready for the next day.

Now if he is home when that stuff is happening (homework, bath time, etc) he will help with it. He will also help with laundry and things like that. However, it still needs to get done whether he's there or not.

My husband still carries his weight as a parent and spouse. He doesn't have a normal schedule, his a Cardiologist so often his hours depend on his patient load. Sometimes he's home 5-6pm and other days around 9-10.

He does thought acknowledge I'm with the kids more than he is. So, on his day off he will at least offer to take the kids out for the day or stay home with them if I want to do something.

What I don't understand is why you're frustrated about... parenting your own kids?

What a shame that you have to actually help raise your children.

Deal with it.

You get home only one hour before her yet get two kids bathed, fed and homework done before she walks in the door? You are a MIRACLE WORKER!!! Amazing. Incredible. Wow. You can make money teaching this.

So instead of "complaining about it".. how about you sit down and make a new division of responsibilities. Homework from daycare? Man... kids got it tough.

Your frustration is no use at all.

Do best for kids and your wife with pride.

Also give best sex to her.

Then you will get pride.

So she gets them up, dressed, fed breakfast, bundled up and in the car and over to daycare, and you have the opposite in the evening. Sounds pretty balanced, unless that isn't what is going on. And if the other household duties are pretty evenly split as well, then I think your setup sounds fairly even. If you don't like how things are or get frustrated, you will get better results by talking to your wife rather than asking strangers on the internet who don't know your life.

So she's getting them ready in the morning and you take care of them in the evening.

That doesn't sound fair to you?

How about on the weekend? Does she spend time with them and watch them then? If so, I don't think you should complain.