Am I spoiled? Am I selfish?

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So, my boyfriend I expect him to pay for most things because he likes to be treated like the daddy and be dominant. Then I complain to him if he wants me to come over Id like him to order me an uber. Its the gesture not the money. he starts feeling disrespected and telling me he feels used like he's obligated to pay for me. I pay sometimes for things and for his birthday and holidays I buy him super expensive stuff while he buys me like face masks and bath bombs and tells me I can have his camera to share with him that was his. But its both of ours now. Anyway, am I spoiled or selfish? He's like this relationship should be 50/50 but expects to be treated like a daddy? So?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't know all your other situations, but I'd say the uber one could be considered selfish. Yes, he is the one that wants you to come over, but if you cared a lot about him, you wouldn't mind paying for the uber yourself. You'd care more about getting time with your boyfriend rather than the money it takes to get to see him. This would also apply for your boyfriend. Take turns paying for transpiration. Take turns paying for everything. That's how you make a relationship work. Neither partner should feel relied on more than the other. About the gift giving, does he ask for expensive things or do you just choose to buy those things for him? Do you tell him a lot that you like face masks and bath bomb type things? Maybe that's all he knows you like and you're hard to shop for? Do you ever tell him you want expensive things once in a while? I don't know how long you've been dating. Point is, try to equally distribute everything to avoid unfairness.

Bebo · Answer

50/50 you are selfish

Anonymous · Answer

I think to break up or stop giving privileges to each other that are better suited for marriage.

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Am I spoiled? Am I selfish?

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