Guys, is my fiancé lying?

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My fiancé is typically very honest with me. At the start of our relationship, he lied about watching porn. I had a relationship previously where I was lied to all of the time, so the lying hit me hard. He promised to never lie about porn again. Ever since, he has told me each time he’s watched it. However, we were sitting together looking up movies on his phone, and we see porn in his history. It was like 20 porn links. It was from the morning prior. He says ‘I do not remember watching this’ and insists it was in his sleep. I’m hurt deeply because I don’t find it realistic to watch porn in your sleep. He says he knows how I feel about lying and he has no reason to lie. So I guess my question is, do you think it’s possible to click 20 links of porn in your sleep? Because as a person who suffers from mental illness, I just can’t deal with lies, especially after I’ve expressed that lying is my one and only deal breaker.

Thanks in advance for your help!

Calvin James Hammer · Answer

Let it go.............

? · Answer

Doesn't matter. What's clear is that you and he have very different attitudes about porn and that very well may be valid reason for to not be together. If he likes watching porn and you're always trying to control and suppress his interest in it he WILL resent you. Relationships are about finding someone who matches you naturally, not trying to change someone who doesn't.

RP · Answer

He must be a very light sleeper to hit 20 links. No, I don't believe him.

? · Answer

It's ridiculous to be "hurt" because your guy watches porn.  ALL guys watch porn, including your father. Don't kid yourself.  Males are visual sexual creatures because of the male sex hormone, testosterone.  And it really impacts the brain and body.  You have no idea.

Masturbation is a life long habit of males, too.  It's a big part of their lives.  It's nothing new, it's normal.

Mental illness shouldn't have anything to do with you coming to the understanding that your boyfriend is just like all other guys.  And that guys have high sex drives and like the visuals of  porn.

You might want to come to the understanding that, what a guy (or anyone) does in their personal, private time is none of your business, as well.

Anonymous · Answer

it is not possible to watch porn in your sleep , he is lying to u because he likes watching porn, there is nothing wrong in watching porn and he will continue doing it whether u like it or not. now he has learnt his lesson and will delete search history. and u should work on your low self esteem and the feeling of being worthless

ken · Answer

You and I both know damn well he’s lying about that. Nobody clicks porn in their sleep. I’m not understanding why he is watching so much porn in the first place when you are right there.

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