who's in the wrong ?

That's hard to tell.  Perhaps right and wrong wouldn't be the answer, perhaps your dad could have given you more money.  The amount he gave you is not in line with a vacation.  Secondly, since your dad was nice enough to let you go on vacation and also gave you money, you could have gotten his shirt and got your glasses  at the dollar store or, found a pair you liked that was cheaper.  Thirdly, it was your money and your aunt was out of line acting like that.  She should have calmly given you advice or, her opinion and left it up to you to make the decision,  So, it's not wether who was right or wrong, it's who did the appropriate thing.  You know your aunt didn't do the appropriate thing, DID YOU?

Whole thing is DUMB

i think her aunt is wrong

Both could have handled this situation differently; yes, girl is being a bit selfish, however, dad s the one who gave her the money and likely doesn t expect anything from the trip. Aunt needs to get a grip and pick her battles, she s not the parent, there were no rules regarding the money, she wouldn t have known any better if girl hadn t said anything. As for the apology, not sure why girl would want an apology she has to ask for, it s not like aunt would have meant it even if she did apologize. Perhaps girl could apologize first for making a scene? "I think I might have embarrassed you yesterday when I got so upset and I want to apologize."

Your Aunt needs to understand that it is "your" money and "your" dad. Anti is the proverbial "B"!

Probably the girl. The error being spending too much ($35), too fast on nothing and not having enough for what was necessary. When you total it up, it was $48 on herself and $2 on dad. That would be selfish. The proper thing to do is buy what is necessary first, then what you really need second, and save the rest. The girl will always be brainless and broke unless she learns a lot.

Difficult to say, because only your side of the story is presented. I believe if the money was given to you, your aunt should have given you the freedom to spend it as you desired. I think she erred in criticizing your selection of the gift you picked for your Dad. I certainly don't believe she was wise to call you selfish and to accuse you of crying for attention. If you are on vacation with your Aunt, you are under her authority. I would suspect you had some part in allowing the situation to escalate. I do not think you were wise to ask her to apologize. It would have been better if you would have initiated the peace process.

The aunt. Because it's not how much you spend but the thought behind the gift that counts. He would have liked that shirt and didn't know it was two dollars.