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Mia asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 year ago

How to tell parents I’m moving out? ?

As a young child I have traumatic memories of my father mistreating me. It was so bad that at the age of 8 I asked my mom if he was my real father (he is, we look too much alike). My mother always over compensated me with love due to this but I endured a lot of verbal assault from my father since my mom worked often. There would be times where I would do absolutely nothing yet still get lied on, blamed, criticized for minor mistakes that a young child would make. I watched my siblings misbehave to the far extreme and my father never punished them nor corrected them. One example was when my older sister was suppose to pick me up from a school program. She went shopping instead, letting me walk home at midnight at the age of 15. When I told my parents about it, I was silenced and told I was wrong for expressing anger and my sister was set free without apologizing. As I got older things only got worse. He once physically tackled me to the ground and swung at me after he heard my sisters arguing and thought it was me. I am now a  senior medical science student accomplishing so much. I got an excellent paying job and did not tell my parents. Recently when he tried to threaten me I had enough and started looking for a new home. My mom tried to stop me. She thinks I’ve let it go like how I always do but I haven’t. I will be moving next week. I want to just pack up and leave without telling them to avoid chaos although I know it’s not the best thing to do. Advice? 

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  • Anonymous
    10 months ago

    Act like an adult and just tell them.

  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    1 year ago

    i would just tell them, they cant legally stop you

  • 1 year ago

    If you are expecting a fight when you tell them, I'm not sure why you would want to tell them until you are out the door. You are an adult, I would just pack up and leave.

  • 1 year ago

    Tell your mother you are leaving home at the very last minute and say it's because of your father, not her, and that you need to be independent. Be firm. She's not going to like it but you can tell her that you'll come back and visit HER often....and dad too if he's around...and she can come over to see you when she wants to. Then go. Your father's abusiveness probably extends to your mother too so you have probably been her lifeline. Alone with him she may man-up and decide enough is enough. Part of her wanting you there is to shield herself. Quite understandable as he's strong and she's weak....but it's wrong of her to use you in this way. Put her in touch with Victim Support if she needs a place of safety. However, you are NOT responsible for your parents. Be kind to her - but GO. Good luck

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  • Anonymous
    1 year ago

    Do it!. Getting put of there before he knows about it is the very best thing you could do. Btw, congrats on making something of your life!

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