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It s only been a year or less since we ve last spoken. Nothing has went wrong we ve just grown apart and communication has fallen off. I ve been accidentally saying their name for the past few months. Maybe they re on my mind? I just don t know where this is coming from. They were a significant part of my life at one point, a part of me wants to regain that contact with them. Is this a sign that I should reopen that door? See how they are doing? Or could it just mean nothing at all and it s just a simple name slip up?

It's sort of stressing me! maybe I have an unrealistic image of what it should be like when you're dating someone by unrealistic I mean I want things like you see in the movies etc. I also feel a little left behind with how almost everyone I know has had some sort of relationship except me. My standards aren't unattainable either, I've just never been past the talking stage with someone. I don't know if I'm rushing to find something but I feel like I've been patient and am willing to continue to be patient. I've recently been faced with the question of "Why aren't you dating someone?" and I honestly don't have a reason as to why. At the same time I also see things realistically that things can't be like the movies and I accept that. It's just all of the guys I've talked to that I'm somewhat mildly interest in, aren't even interested in getting to know me. I start to see all of these things as a sign that I'm not meant to be in a relationship even though I want to at least experience something more.

I'm going through a rough patch and I don't know if it will get any better. Here is a little about what is going on in between late December of last year and early January this year a close loved one was diagnosed with cancer. I have never had to deal with someone having serious illnesses in my life so this was all new to me. Recently that close loved one ended up passing away something again I have never experienced. During all that I was going through a lot of changes and transitions in my life. I was in the process of graduating and going to college I'm tired of feeling the way that I do I want to move on and accept what has happened but its hard. Everyone that I have talked to only says enough in that moment to make it "better" or whatever I am told is no help at all. I'm afraid to tell them whats going on in my mind what I am feeling. I guess I find it easier to talk to other people who aren't family or close friends. I'm able to open up a little more. sort of. I don't know if I should go to temporarily go see a therapist just to help me get through this? Find another way to cope on my own? Should I let time pass and see if it gets better? I just feel lost and I feel like I'm out of options.

I appreciate all responses, Thank you.

Lately I've been through a lot in life. I've never really had a schedule when it comes to eating it was mostly eat when I'm hungry type of thing. Now I feel like my eating has changed it's as if I am forgetting to eat and even if I feel my stomach growling I'm either occupied with something and push off eating until a little bit later. It just keeps getting put to the side something that isn't a priority and my mind I guess. When I finally eat its because I'm feeling ill from not eating and that's when it clicks to me like "oh I haven't eaten all day!" Its not an everyday thing some days I'll eat regularly you know breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks in-between meals. some days I eat smaller only twice or once a day and other days I have to force my self to eat because of loss of appetite. I don't know if its stress because there's so much going on. I don't really know what to do if it is a problem. Any feedback is highly appreciated!!!

-Thank you

I have small itty bitty microscopic like bumps on my lips. I don't believe it's an allergic reaction to chapsticks only because I've stopped using them and tested it when the bumps cleared and haven't had a reaction in the past and it not new type of chapsticks I've tried and I'm not the sharing type to share or use other peoples chapsticks/lip products. The bumps form in a small cluster and they itch then the spread to the edges or rest of my lip they go through 3 phases itches,scabbing and peeling,gone for a day or two then reappears. This has been going on for a few months now what should I do visit a doctor? Try over the counter med? I don't really know what is causing this it's not herpes unless it's the form you already carry other than that it's not std herpes because i don't do any of that. Do you know what these little bumps are? why they keep reappearing? What can I do to treat it? Any help is appreciated!

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Theres so many takes that i've heard on combing and/or brushing hair wet or dry....now im starting to get a little mixed up on the situation on how hair should be treated while wet or dry i've heard so many things and i want some other tips and tricks that you may use or heard of for hair in general...if this helps at all i am african american but i have had relaxer in my hair its been almost six months since ive stopped relaxing it so the only natrual or virgin parts of my hair are the roots and parts that have broken off (edges) the rest is sort of wavey straight so if your fimiliar with the tight curly hair type even if your not and you still have tips anything will be helpful

Thank you all help is appreciated

-God bless :)

before i say any thing i do need tips and advice but i also need to know one thing: so i plan on going all natural with my hair and i see a lot of people co wash. they don't go into detail about it so what is co washing? and how to do it? and if you have any tips to help your hair grow weather it s a blog, youtube videos, etc. any thing at all that you have tried you know some one who has tried it or you want to try it please give me any advice or tips

thank you

god bless you :)

Hi, i want to know the benefits and risk of heat training? I'm considering doing it but i don't know exactly what it is i guess i have the basics of it you can say. so here's the deal i plan on going all natural with my hair and taking good care of it to see if i get any growth now if you are familiar with hair types mine naturally would be a 4c but i am just starting to go back to virgin with my hair so its still not to its original form its kinda wavy from the relaxers and i believe its never going to get back to its natural form and if so its going to take lots of time. so think of my hair at a relaxed 4c no tangles and very manageable the only part that is at the 4c is my roots. so i have some questions about heat training: how often should i do it? have you tried it and did your results come back good or bad? do you have any tips for hair growth that you've tried or heard about? any websites you have to recommend would be helpful even though i prob been on every website there is. stories you have to share that will be helpful any thing at all would be a great help

thank you,

have a blessed day/night :)

Well im 15 years old i started at 9 and every since then it has been a problem i get the worse unbareable cramps while on my period i feel like dying nothing helps for the amount of time i want it to it just helps for a little while then it comes back my doctor wont put me on a higher dosage of like over the counter med. i become immune to all the meds i take so she reccommened alieve yeah it works but not to the extend i need it to i have to take pain pills with it and stay on the heating pad majority of the time and eat very easy going foods as if im sick for examples i eat soups fuirts crackers oatmeals and drink water and tea i hate it last option is birth controll because its so unbareable idk what to do im sick of missing school and being traped all day because of my period any one else feel this way please let me know im not the only one

so for awhile every one has different answers and i want to hear yours do you think your born gay or you chose to be gay? i find this topic interesting just want to know what you think

so i got the guy i like number and so now were texting kinda.. he was first to text me after he had mine so what does that mean?!?! i responded back like 3 hrs late he didn't write back it could mean just didn't get it or its the whole texting game that people play i'm going to take just as long as u take BS so this time i text him first just a simple hey he responded an hr later and so now i'm just at the whats up? stage is this lame or what should i say something different he hasn't responded kinda scared!

any advice is appreciated thank you!

I think its minor but i really dont know the signs if i am or not and i dont want to discuss this with family or any one i know so i thought its best i go here to get some advice before its to late. ive always have been cautious about my wheight and always watching it and usually when i feel i gain little too much weight i start putting restriction on my food eating smaller proportions or skipping a meal lets say my normal wieght is around 108 110 if i get close to 120 i start doing things like i said above i dont really have alot of healthy foods so i tend to go on soup diets or eat egg whites things that are healthier i dont continue this whole dieting thing for long only till i get back to where my usual weight is to be i guess. tell me if this is something i should worry about?

Thank you.

okay lets say you have two apple products one of them has to be an iphone and the other has to be something else like an iphone ipod ipad etc.. where you have to have an apple id and what if you were signed in with your apple id on your iphone and then you wanted to sign on to your ipod with the same id will it then sign you out of the iphone i'm just wondering because i have an iphone and it got stolen so i need to know weather if i sign on to my apple account to download something or will it sign me out and if it does then i don't want to try that it

well I'm into the getting free stuff and entering giveaway kinda stuff so what are some websites or giveaways that you enter on to receive free items how long did it take for you to receive them? rate the site from 1-10 but i only really need the website names and just the basics you don't have to answer the other question just want to know how your experience was with the website.

you know when you get the lining from the uterus toward the end of your period is it like flesh like what is it? i just never really thought about it until now what the **** it is lol well any help would be nice thank you

well that's my question up i need more vitamin D in my system that's what my doctor says so i would like to know some foods that contain it and help will be put to use thank you! :)

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other than pizza places or even if there are some pizza places that deliver more then just pizza and wings and the basic stuff thank you! just name some that you know and i will do the rest :)

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okay so there's two guys i want to talk about the first guy we have this weird relationship (friendship) thing going on a lot of people say we would make a cute couple and they say it like right in front of us and every single time some one says oh you should go out we're both kinda like uhh idk? or we're just like straight up no and we are kinda alike we make a lot of jokes and stuff and we just meet up on the same level and when its like our friends its awkward because we r friends with the same crowd and so when he goes around gives basically every girl a hug and then hugs me or like i'll walk away and then he would also say hey get back here or something so we would be able have that connection so is he into me? and the second guy i consider him as my flirt buddy we kinda don't make things go any further then that i can tell that he does feel more then comfortable around me because he's more then willing to get a boob brush from me when i was sitting in the middle and i'm busty so he would always lean up and to the side toward me like he really had something to talk about to his friends and couldn't wait for a few more stops for me to get off but that's what ever i guess i could keep him as a flirt buddy cuz that's all we do but i don't think he's into me he's kinda more of a i like girls for bj, and sex kind of guy not the i'm sweet and nice to you and i don't just want you for what you offer the first guy is like that but any help is appreciated btw i'm gonna be hanging out with the first guy tonight so lemme know so i can prob hit it off with him or keep my distance thank you!

-god bless

well i have something that feels like a cramp around my vagina area but idk..? what it could be i have been getting a lot of sharp stomach pains in my lower abdomen and i'm a little Afraid i might have to go through surgery again since i had to get one when i was around 12 and it was a medium sized Teratoma tumor wrapped around my ovaries and Fallopian tube on my right side so they had to take those out and i dont remember how the pain felt just frequent unbearable stomach aches. i also know when i tell my mom my stomach hurts the only response i get is that she doesn't know what to do and sorry this is such and awkward question just a little nervous:/ can you get a cramp there? and my period is already passed i'm 14 and i'm not sexually active so any help will be appreciated thank you!

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