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We were together 18 years, have been estranged for 4 and haven't spoken at all in 2.The relationship was ultimately very destructive for me, psychologically, emotionally and financially. I have no regrets about its conclusion or the completeness of our final break. However, I did spend well over half of my adult life with this person and it seems to me that her death should have elicited some fairly major and immediate response from me. It hasn't though. I haven't shed a tear and I cry fairly easily. I just don't seem to feel anything at all except a vague sense of nostalgia.

I have basically no information surrounding the circumstances of her death beyond "complications from the flu". I am convinced, because of certain self destructive behaviors on her part, that there is more to the story than that and that it is almost certainly not pretty. I have tried to contact a couple of her family members and one finally did leave me a phone message. I'm wondering if talking to this person will make the whole thing seem more real and finally bring some kind of clear reaction to the fore or if I really am just completely neutral on the fact of this death.

If I am neutral does that make me a really crappy and cold hearted person, or is it okay to have cut someone loose so completely that you do not mourn at all when they are gone?

I mean, I feel sort of clinically sad but it's almost like I have to tell myself to. I'm not feeling any of the ways that I generally do when I experience a personal death. I have been more emotional about the deaths of public figures who matter to me. My brother seems more upset than I do and they weren't even close.

Any insight that any of you might have to offer would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

It's never been good but now it always tells me that every word is misspelled,

except sometimes when they really are, lol!

As of the above line it said I had 15 errors in the mainQ and 22 in the details.

Now I have 39 and rising. Ooops, 44. I'm scared to type more ... 50!!!

Or does it just seem that way?

BQ: Is it usually worth it?

I just got a terrible little job that pays badly and offers no guaranteed hours but it's in the industry I like and the people are nice and it makes me feel human again, after way too much time being unemployed.

Got any stories?

I just found out that some people with Type 1 (juvenile onset) diabetes are hostile to those with Type 2 diabetes. I find that both strange and depressing.It made me ponder why we are so often unkind and judgmental.

Any insights, examples or desires to vent?

The guy I live with just bought an in-dash CD player for his car and it comes with a remote control. What the . . .!

BQ: What's the handiest thing you've run across recently?

(Sorry. I don't have an example for this one :)

Did I miss something?

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/Woah

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/whoa

Did you think it was cute even once?

Are you aware that it's been asked 214 times?

Should I kill Tim Burton?

If not, who should I kill?

I met mine in high school and he was entirely gorgeous and entirely gay and we ended up living together for a year, platonically.

Can you say frustrating?

Do tell!

My brother and I built a teepee. We felled the trees and used a few old canvas tarps that we mended by hand. We had a buried metal cachebox and a fireplace. My mom used to toss us some ground beef and potatoes and we'd crash out there, often accompanied by a litter of puppies.

but his primary focus of concern seems to be J.D. Salinger. I am often bewildered as to his point. Can any of you help me, please?

end up being the ones that drive you the craziest further down the road?

If so, why do you suppose that is?

If not, do you think there's something wrong with me?

they ate a pound of Skittles, chased by too many shots of peppermint schnapps?

Because it did me.

BQ: Do any of you have any wild theories as to why I read them in the first place?

(I assure you the true reason is very prosaic. A kid I know asked me to, so I did. I'd just like a little better cover story than that.)

Because I always do and I wondered if I was alone in that.

Boy, I do!

I should probably never have come back but man, did I miss it and all of you!

I just read the book and I'd love to hear what people have to say. Here are a few questions, in addition to the main one. Answer as many or as few as you like or just say whatever you want to about either the book or the author.

In light of the controversy about Card being homophoblic do you find it interesting that the enemy race is referred to as "buggers" throughout? What do you make of Ender trying to save them in the end? Messiah complex, or what?

What do you think of the two female characters? Valentine (!) as the little mama and Petra as the only tough girl who, naturally, washes out.

Am I the only person who sees a cultlike religious subtext in this book?

Am I nuts or is it terribly overrated in both writing and concept?

If you've read "The Power of One" by Bryce Courtenay which precocious six year old would you vote for? ( Peekay, Peekay, Peekay! Onoshobishobi Ingelosi! Or maybe that's just me ...)

Tell me anything you can about your experience with this book. Quick before Y!A goes down! Or ... slowly, once it's finally back up.

Thanks!

I just read "the Power of One" by Bryce Courtenay and I loved it but it does require a huge leap of faith.

I feel that he accomplished the writing magic to take us all there but perhaps I was just in the mood for his story.

How do you all feel about books that are somewhat preposterous but yet entirely lovable?

Man, I ask bad questions don't I?

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