Jessica_Rabbit

A calorie is a calorie is a calorie...

Age old question that is argued between dietitians everywhere.. Is it true?

I love chocolate... Everyday for afternoon tea I eat about 1300kj (300cal) snack.

It usually is.. Say:

- muesli bar and up and go

- crackers with cheese

- nut bar and yogurt

If I were to have a chocolate bar (1100-200kj) a day INSTEAD of what I usually have...

Will I put on weight?

For a while I've been almost certain that my mother wasn't sexually abused as a child. She has talked about it often happening when she was 4-6 years old so memory is usually foggy around that time of your life. I've studied psychology and I was adamant that the psychologists she has visited were planting these thoughts in her head or, rather, over-encouraging her own thoughts about it. Sometimes when people hear something over and over again they begin to imagine it really happened rather than simply a dream or something they watched on television that can somehow make themselves believe it really happened to them.

Anyway, I went to my grandmother and asked her very vague quetsions aobut why my mother is messy (something that is almost intolerable to live with and I'm going crazy) I probed into where she stayed when she was younger - I never suggested sexual abuse - but my grandmother said that she was the only one that ever looked after her and she said it very strongly.

So I was so sure that my mother devised this in her head and I told her what my grandmother said, she got really offended as in the past I told her that what she might be retelling may not be the truth (I never said they didn't happen.. just that they might not have happened). This time I said they can't have happened.

Anyway she went to my grandma and asked her... well did she have something different to say! She told my mum, yes, she was baby sit by a family with a boy and also baby sat in a boarding house with a man. On both accounts they were both exploited for their sexual advances. (They made my mum touch their privates and also pull my mums pants down. I dont think they did anything else though).

I'm stupid, naive and ignorant. The day before new years day... and confirm my mums suspicians... and my grandma? If she has a heart attack its my focking fault. I don't know what to do/feel :( Just feel like apologising over and over but I don't think that'll make a difference

I've been trying to meet new people and socialise a lot more. I was underweight for about 1.5 years and in that time I developed severe OCD and pretty much isolated myself from society and stopped socialising all that much.

So I've been making the effort to try hang out with people and be friendly. (Specifically going to watch a group of people play dodgeball). I've been trying to hint that i'd love to hang out with them like go to the beach, watch movies, hang out, club...but nothing.

THe first time I asked today on facebook they completely ignored me. I feel like utter ****. I'm depressed and sad becuase I've done nothing but be friendly and nice to these people but they are purposely going out of their way to ignore me. I'm 21 years old (as their ages are) and this is high school behaviour.

I'm trying to be a better person, trying to stop limiting myself to people who I hang out with and trying to be all round friendly, yet they hate me. WHY? WHYWHYWHY??

Also, I am fairly attractive, I even get attention from the guys in the group but still zip. In fact if I didn't go out of my way to watch them play dodgeball (which I've suggested I can play for them as a sub sometimes and still they just ignore it and ask soemone else to sub that DOESN'T watch every week) I would NEVER see them ever.

I'm not a freak of nature (I'm reasonably attractive) , I'm not a ***** so why are they being so cruel?

Hey I'm playing the AWESOME american sport called dodgeball today (theres not many leagues in Australia!) but I wear glasses... I have pretty bad vision, not as bad as some but I can't read big writing from maybe 20 feet away.

Anyway, I don't wear glasses all the time. Just to watch tv, catch the bus & in lectures/tutes. Would it be not-wise for me to wear glasses whilst playing dodgeball? I mean would it be that much more difficult if I DIDN'T wear glasses?

I'd say its a big of a benefit cos people are less likely to hit you cos they think they'll break your glasses hahahhaha

Thanks for your input!

I've known this guy for a while. He's totally distant. Barely speaks to me. And when I start to initiate conversation with him he pretty much ignored me until I tapped him and asked again then all he replied with was a head shake (I said 'you guys still played really well tonight') - but they lost.

I've added a few others that are in the same team that I now watch but he has not accepted my friend request. Like seriously WTF! I have done nothing to him! I am pretty attractive, nice size chest, face, hips...others have expressed interest in me but I like him..prolly becuase i cant have him *sigh*

WTF is his problem? I have given him NO indication that I like him so theres no reason to avoid me! The only thing that may have affected his judgement is when he said that when you sweat you lose weight and some other guy said no thats not true & I said 'yeah doesn't that just cause water loss?' THATS it! Hes quiet, wants to lose weight (guessing low self-esteem) is terribly moody - from what i've seen but I still like him.. No one knows, but I just don't get why this guy cant even talk to me so I can get to know if I really like him or not! Grrr haha

I am the sort of person that is tidy, organised, responsible, RATIONAL and realistic. My mother is not. She is irresponsible, messy, untidy NOT rational or realistic. Don't get me wrong she doesn't take drugs or go out late or anything (in fact most of the time shes by herself) but she acts like a child.

She spends money we don't have..like she will blow heaps of money on a tv she DOESN'T need. We don't have money to throw around as she's currently quit her job. Seriously, she has NOTHING saved in the bank, she used to spend everything she earnt when she was working.

My house is a constant pig sty. She buys crap all the time which fills out the whole house with junk. I live in mess and have most of my life, I attribute this to the reason I developed OCD actually.

Just today she decided to get faster internet (at no extra cost) but the time she invested in calling someone to come up she could have invested in calling a plummer as our sink is broken & we can't really use the hot water..its winter :/

I don't mean to complain. I am a spoilt person and I don't treat her with a lot of respect. This is due to her letting me walk all over her with no discipline. I take the blame now as I'm 21 so I've began mending my ways and acting more like an adult. Its hard when you've been brought up with no discipline or punishment.

I love my mother a lot, I do not blame her for anything. She was a single mother and she did the best she could. I am glad she is my mother. But I am endlessly frustrated that I feel like I'm living with a child making the decisions of the house. I don't know how to handle this frustration. If I tell her she either tells me I'm acting like her mother or agrees but still does nothing to change.

I'm not asking you how to change her (becuase shes going through a lot atm) but I'm asking how I can approach this situation and deal with the stress and frustration its causing me.

TY :)

Ok I'm 167cm and weigh 64kg and approx 141pounds. I think I have a significant amount of body fat becuase I was once underweight and gained weight purely from eating unhealthy (i.e binging). but I'm not healthy, eating well and actually happy rather then depressed all the time.

I would like to get tipsy and happy (NOT drunk). I generally hold my alcohol average even though I dont drink often, may be becuase of my height and body type.

Since alch is so expensive Ive prepared myself a bottle of coke and 115g (mls) of vodka. This is approx 3.5 shots (or 3.7 w/e) as its 'absolute vodka' & I divided the amount of shots the whole bottle by the mls.

How many shots do you think it will take me to get to the nice and tipsy/buzzed/funny stage? And how long should I take to consume them? TY everyone for your imput :)

BEST ANSWER 10P! :D

I've just had a massive argument with my mother and its left me feeling depressed and in tears. She decided to fix the sink that was blocking up at 2am in the morning. In the process she touched and moved my face wash which I specifically ask her not to touch (OCD as you may call it). My OCD is much better then It was a year ago and I've come a far way but she has problems too. The house is always in a state of mess or disarray. She buys things she doesn't need all the time and messes the place up with junk. She came into my room the other day when I specifically asked her to respect my privacy. I got really upset then because I only have limited privacy in this house.

Is it fair that she touched my facewash which she knows would upset me greatly becuase my acne has psychologically scared me which means my face wash is like a lifeline for me & anyone who touches it touches a nerve in my body. I accept her problems & don't attack her every time she buys something (I am rational sometimes). But she knew it would upset me but she wanted to fix the sink because I asked her to call a Plummer about it but she decided (as she does things randomly) to fix it herself. She chose to touch my face wash. I feel dirty now. How do I react to this? I am really upset

I've been sick for like 6 days now (Flu) taking tablets for it day and night. I'm a bit tired & still a runny nose but besides that i feel ok (dont know if thats the cold&flu tablets talking tho...)

anyway I've been rejecting peoples invitations to hang out left right and centre because I really NEED to feel better by next week as my semester @ uni starts (which is like 2 days away).

Anyway, I've wanted to go watch this dodgeball tourniment on sundays for a while (its sunday today in aus) but I'm worried that since my immune system is down I could get more sick - they also said they may need me to play becuase half their people have gone skiing...do you think if I go REALLY rugged up & dont play that it'lls till be alright by tuesday when I start uni classes?

Ok so this is big for me. I had anorexia for like 1.5 years and I barely left the house or went to events. Then I developed Binge eating so I'm like a normal bmi now. I'm coping from day to day. ANYWAY this is exactly what i needed to make me feel good. I went to my friends 21st and started flirting with this guy that I had a massive crush on 2 years back. My friends bf was egging us on & they were talking about rugby tomorrow so I threw into the conversation 'Oh that would be so fun to come and watch ..hahaha...*PAUSE*' so hes like come and watch.

At one point during the night I said 'god theres too many conversations going on at once' then he replied with 'I thought women are suppose to multi-task, are you sure your a woman?' Now...I am very VERY womanly. I have big boobs and hips & look a bit latino so i'm like 'Oh i'm all woman...I mean I can show you if you really want proof' I mean I was totally joking..I realised after I probably went overboard...anyway he went sort of speechless whilst he was pretending to think of a way that I he could prove it.

ANYWAY even before we started talking he was glancing over at me & then came closer to speak to me in the group (like he crossed the group). & SOmehow my friends boyfriend knew i was single. Either he oculd read my body language or she told him...dont know.

So anyway my friend throws into the convo (my friend having the 21st) so do you still have a girlfriend? and hes like 'yeah but shes in adelaide atm...'. NOW i'm good at concealing my feelings but I was really shocked. Shortly after that hes like 'ok i'm going to head off now' and he hugged me and said it was nice seeing me again.

SERIOUSLY! I'm going to this rugby thing tomorrow...I'm sure there are other cute guys that I can see as potentialities...but seriously WTF?

Ok so I went to a cafe & ordered a vegetarian foccacia with sem-sundried tomatos, roasted eggplant & capsicum & it came with a salad but i didn't eat most of it. Foccacia was reasonably sized (about the size of a hand..little bigger)

How many calories do you think was in it? 400-500? more?

So... I've been eating low cal anyway but I eat a TONN of veggies so my stomach is usually full when I go out. Anyway. I skipped dinner tonight & had a fruit so my stomach is kind of empty. I had about 4 shots in an hour a couple of nights ago and it did nothing but a buzz really. So if I do 4 shots in an hour this time (take into consideration I ate my normal lunch) and a fruit ...how bad is my hangover going to be? I'm like normal weight. I'm on a diet and I've already drank once this week eating normally so I'm trying to let myself drink tonight without the worry :)

PS. Dont give me crap. I know its bad on an empty stomach, just tell me honestly..not hypothetically how fast I can get drunk & if i'm really going to feel bad the next day :) my tolerance is pretty good in general.

Ok...so I had about 4 tequila shots & vodka soda in about...say 3 hours and I got PRETTY buzzed. I wasn't like off my face....well they kind of said to me 'your drunk!' but I dont think I was becuase I know what i was thinking, but the words kind of just came out weird. So this is how I acted:

VERY talkative, I even let some guy pick me up. I'm ALWAYS conservative so I decided to let lose. Here is how I was summed up. Think of all the comedy shows in the world 'how I met your mother', 'friends' 'The big bang theory'. Ok so the whole time i was talking I was pretty much cracking jokes & saying something silly. I was also stroking girls legs and saying they were sexy...lol I'm not gay. At one point my voice went a bit angry which shocked one of the guys actually but It died down like 2 seconds later lol. Most of the night I was happy & laughing. When I was dancing I wasn't looking at anyone, I kept covering my eyes & talking to myself which was ok becuase you cant hear in a club anyway. I kept saying **** like 'I want what I know I cant allow myself' but thats another story. Anyway, what do you think of this type of drunk in a girl? Is it bad?Good?Just ok?

Ok guys I look preggers. I just ate about 500g of broccoli WITH water, my friend just called me and said we're going out tonight. I look like a hippo! Its 7:45 and shes picking me up at 9. What can I do between then to get it all out of my system (or at least most of it so I look presentable!??

Thing is I was always ugly in high school & never got any attention from any guys. So when I did get attention I would crave it & put up with a lot of ****. I'd let men walk all over me, insult me and still i'd come running back and act like what they did was fine. Anyway I'm better looking now as I gym it and lost some weight & acne..BUT I still do the same **** and put up with this ONE guy who is a loser and is rude to me all the time. I hate him but he gives me attention (even sexist attention sometimes) like its pretty obvious he likes me but its more like a 'looks' like rather then personality. I want the strength to stop talking to him and getting into heated discussions with him. I feel like I'm just worsening my self-esteem the more i talk to him. I think its prolly got something to do with not having a stable male figure ever in my life (father) that makes me crave any male attention.

but thats another story, just now I want to be able to avoid talking to him and having him in my life (this is all done via facebook btw) Thanks!

So for a long time I've been really lonely. My friends have all had their boy stories to tell and I have nothing. I am a reasonably attractive girl but I have a very low self-esteem because I used to be ugly. (Ugly duckling syndrome) Anyway.. I feel like I'm dying inside. I'm not a homosexual because I'm really attracted to men so thats not the reason why I haven't found anyone. But im 21 years old and...TBH I just want to make out with someone already & even do more. I'm sexually frustrated as well. I dont know what to do. I dont know how to find people and the people I know I just cant date (even though I may like one) becuase they are all the exes of my friends.

I feel like ****, sometimes I cry in the shower or bed thinking about if someone was there with me. Its really depressing. I shut myself off to men and I do it subconsciously - but the only men I hang around I wouldn't date...so I'm now wanting to get drunk and do whatever. I wish someone would just knock on my door and ask me to coffee :(

So tonight I'm going out. I'm 21 and have only really just started to drink (I got a wee bit tipsy about 2 weeks ago). For about 2 years I didn't touch any alch. So I wanna get drunk, but I'm thinking the best spot to be at is not tipsy but only just in the category of drunk. Do you like women that get to this stage? People were egging me on for ages to drink but i never did. When I hit 21 I decided I was not experiencing what youth should be. ANYWAY...

What type of drunk do you go for?

What do you think when a girl is drunk (but not OVERLY)

...I promised myself I would'nt do anything stupid when I got tipsy, but I would not shut my mouth. Jokes here, jokes there...talking at a slow pace but fast...if that makes sense lol. I didn't do anything that I would seriously regret. But tonight I want to make sure I'm not compelled to act stupid if I'm getting attention. Like being drunk is one thing, but getting attention also may affect how I act as well (which I DO NOT want) I want to realise what I'm doing is silly and stop. :)

6 days: 1000-1200 cals

day 7: 3000-4000 cals

Like binge once a week with all the foods you love. Will this affect your weight?

Theres this guy I've known and been friends with for a long time. We had a massive falling out years ago becuase he was a j.e.r.k to me, just recently he actually apologised for what he did and I have the feeling he might like me a bit more than a friend

The other night we went out and well... our whole group prolly drank a little too much alch. I was tipsy but i knew what I was doing. He said a few things that striked me as strange (even though I think he was drunk) when I rang my friend who didn't answer several times he finally did and said "yeah we'll be in the city at blahblahblah..." then ended with " love you" at this point I'm sober so I'm like LOLS hes so drunk". Then at another time during the night when I had drank a bit he said "lets get drunk, you and me, we'll just get smashed" and me in my tipsy state said "nah...I'll fall on the floor and wont get up" he said it a couple times. Now..I understand he was drunk. But he's done a few strange things like this in the past. Once he even said to me (whilst he had a girlfriend) 'you are the perfect woman' No idea whether he was joking or not.

I can't go out with him, he's gone out with my friend, but I've had feelings for him as long as i can remember...and to be honest i never thought he would ever have them back (because at one stage before our fall out I liked him and he didnt like me back). Does this show anything or is he (as i suspected) just a normal drunk guy who says **** lol

Ok I remember the first time i made white chocolate muffins they were to die for. I was in one of those 'moods' and I couldn't wait for them to get out of the oven and cool so I just too it out of the oven and opened it to a melting ooze of white chocolate in my hand. Let me just say it tasted so divine. However, since then I have made probably 3 batches of white chocolate muffins and each time has turned out...well not so nice. Yeah its a muffin, yeah its white chocolate but theres no ooze..the white chocolate chips tend to retain their shape and don't melt apart like milk chocolate does in cookies/muffins. What has happened? my first inkling was that (because I don't really use a recipe) I may have given the wrong ratio of butter and added too much which somehow caused the white chocolate to melt and mix with the butter?

Is there any way to get that 'ooze' back again? you know that 'betty crocker chocolate chip cookie ooze' i want that with white chocolate!!

thanks for your answers, best one gets 10 p!