i am a doctor..my age is 39...all my life opportunities pass by me and i cant grab any advantage from any opportunity..i am working in government job in my home country...but there is less return from it..i have now come to UAE to find a life here..but here also everyone is ahead of me.even those who were far behind me have gone ahead of me.my other colleagues do private clinics and earn..i didnt start my clinic just for the fear of failure..what if what i invest it get lost.what if patients dont come to me.all my life i have been in the fear of failure...i was a brilliant and intelligent student...but i never attempted the specialization exam coz of this fear of failure..there were my other colleagues who were a lot less better than me but they all are thriving in their lives and i am still in struggle..i dont know whether i will be able to do something in life...have i finished the time of my struggle.is everything gone from me..when questions like these come in my mind..i wish i die
2006-09-11T07:32:21Z
i am a medical doctor..have done MBBS...12 years of schooling before medical college an d 5years of medical education...which led to the degree MBBS...i am not looking for a tap on my back neither do i need one...what have i done in life for which i deserve a pat on my back
2006-09-11T07:33:19Z
daniel this detailed note i have posted just for you
Anonymous2006-09-11T00:30:02Z
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these are clear manifestation of depression and you consult a clinical psychologist immediately
You sound very negative at the moment. Maybe you should congratulate yourself for becoming a Doctor - it is not an easy thing to achieve. You must of wanted to become a doctor to help people to undergo so much study and training. Dont worry about other people 'ahead' of you think about what you want to do. If you save only one person then it has all been worth it. It sounds like you are ready for a bit of a social life yourself now and being a doctor you have a great opportunity to meet people. Making others feel better will make you feel better and give you a sense of achievment to make your life great. Maybe after getting this far you should write down some goals for the future and go for it
What are the requirments to become a doctor in your country? I have known people that were "doctors" in countries in south america and the middle east that only went to formal school for 2 or 3 years.
People that are answering this post and suggesting that you pat yourself on the back for this accomplishment should be more cautious!
But that aside, clearly you answered your own question. You mentioned "fear of failure" several times in your post. You don't need psychology degrees (though I have them) to assess that your problem is a fear of failure. A fear of failure stems from basic low self-esteem. You should definitely seek out some counseling. Sounds like you are in over your head on this on.
Regarding your note - so you went K-12 and then 5 years of college. In America, that is equivalent to a Bachelor's degree, "doctor."
Live & let others live. First of all, don't B disheartened, do confidently whatever U do, Forget about the failures, as there's nothing, nothing at all that's sure & guaranted success. U R in a very honest & respectable proffession, hence do not bother about success monetarily as money's not everything. If U R satisfied yourself with whatever U have, U do, is enough for living, B patient & keep performing sincerely, it won't go waste but your hard work's going to fetch U rewards sooner or later. That's it that all I can say. U seem to B a very kind person, a genuine one, honest, but don't ever B over emotional. This world needs more & more people like U, hence, pl. live peacefully, helping others live too their lives. My sincere regards, & wish U all the best.
I would got a sebatical and go off and do something that makes you happy for 6 months, then when you come back reasses what you are doing with your life.
Dare I say it but at 39 you might be having a mid life crisis. No harm in that happens to the best of us. So go and embrace life.
So what if you are not as successful as everyone around you, most of us never are. No one ever laid on their death bed and said " I wish I spent more time at work".