I don't care about other people, not even my family?

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I am polite and helpful, I don't do it because I care about people but because I know it will make them like me. When my mom yells at me I fell NOTHING AT ALL. Sometimes, and by that I mean like 1 time a month, I suddenly care about everyone and start crying because I feel sorry for them and try to help everyone but then it disappears and again I don't give a **** about anyone.
I had a really good friend and he loved me but I was mean to him and when he was leaving to another state, he asked if I would miss him, I said that I wouldn't (and it's the truth, I never miss anyone). Then he asked some girl if she would miss him and she sais yes, he said, "see, even she would miss him and she isn't even my friend", so I said, "well she just says that, she wouldn't really miss you and nobody will". I guess it pissed him off so he told me "you will never find a real boyfriend because you can't love anyone". I thought he just said that because he was mad at me but lately I've been thinking and maybe he's right? 
I swear I'm not mean on purpose. I want to be nice to other people and I don't want to spend my life alone... how can I change my personality?

ChrisM · Accepted Answer

You'll just have to learn how to cope with it i am the same way just act like you care even if you don't that's what i do.

Anonymous · Answer

Althought this post is too old and idk if youre still the same. Ik that you want people around you. But the reality is caring for people will bring you pain at some point. Like you said your sense of caring comes back once a month and you end up crying. See? Theres pain at the end of caring for someone. Im in pain cuz im emotional and i wish i was like you and not give a damn and be happy

Amanda · Answer

you need to talk to someone about this, talk to your mom or even your friends, let them help you through this because its obvious you still have the capability to care when you have times you ball your eyes out. I think your holding all of your emotions up tight and you let them out at that point. try your best to care, and if you find that this really isn`t working and you wish to fix it, talk to someone. Screw your friend, if he cant see you have an emotional problem and he puts you down by saying those things hes not a friend worth having. Hope this helps, and good luck :)

Jay B · Answer

well i am not a psych major but it sounds like u are a lil bit of sociopath(not what it sounds like, its actually people whose emotion side of the brain is not connected to some thing, i forgot i took Psych last year for my interest), but seems like u can cry so ur not even the serious sociopath, ur just one who takes time to feel emotions :)

Anonymous · Answer

same with me much family yell at me. I store ignore. it. but now cant cuz. now I don&#x27;t How Mich family are important and I most work.

Listen your family get old and can&#x27;t pay yr food u hv to help.  so just be yr self

I don't care about other people, not even my family?

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