I am in an abusive marriage, mentally emotionally and small of physical. It is way more emotional and mental....?
2015-06-24T09:39:20Z
I have no clue how to start to leave with my kids as he will make it so miserable and maybe not let me leave, my kids are 3 & 2 and I am trying to shield them from any of this but I know I need to find some way to get out and get my own place with them. Any ideas? I would love a support group or someone to talk to as I feel so ugly defected lost, just everything bad, i feel. My poor babies, he is a great dad but horrible husband.
2015-06-24T09:41:36Z
I have no relationship with my mom what so ever and father is passed. I am only close to my sister and cousin. Sister is busy with 2 jobs and school, my cousin knows most but I keep it all to myself...and I want out but I have no money although I do work but pay rent and bills you know so I don't know how to start to leave
2015-06-30T09:51:10Z
Thank you everyone, no I never said I was considering staying ever thats why I am asking how to start, my sister lives in a studio so for her to take on 3 more bodies is nearly impossible......I have been looking for another place but money is super tight. I know its not okay all this is not okay, its very hard when he is a great dad just a piece of **** to me, its his worls and how he wants things done, if not then **** goes down hill.........
Anonymous2015-06-28T01:59:02Z
If your in an abusive relationship, reaching out is to someone who can help is the first thing to do such as, counselors etc. An abusive relationship is ABSOLUTELY NOT OK. If you are scared then report this to the police because it's not right. If you need a place to go i suggest you stay with your sister for a while because you shouldn't have to live in a negative environment with negative people. Its not safe and people could get hurt.
I strongly suggest that you talk to someone who will listen to you and help you. I also strongly advise marriage counseling and if this is getting way out of hand then you NEED TO REPORT THIS TO THE POLICE. Stay with your sister if you feel unsafe and don't look down on yourself but look up knowing everything is going to be alright.
Physical and mental abuse can make your marriage nightmarish. He has no right to treat you the way he does. But every coin has another side, doesn t it? Do you pick fights with him? Do you bring in old fights into your conversation? All these things can instigate your husband to behave violently. Or he might be a person with an inferiority complex. Do you think your children will accept your decision to divorce your husband. Children develop various complexities if they have a broken home. Think twice before you decide on anything. You cannot bring up your children without money.Never depend on others for your day to day survival. Your self-esteem will be shattered.
Like Allison said, I do also believe abusive is readily used. Things happen in marriages. Sometimes it is one sided, sometimes is both sides. I guess on here this place gets more cries for help and it is easy to use. I know men are generally the minority on here, so if one of us stands up we stand the risk of being knocked down. I believe Champ has a reason to call her husband abusive, but I don't read your question as calling anyone saying their spouse was abusive a liar.
It's not about whether the children accept the decision to divorce the husband (they're toddlers - 2 and 3 years old! They won't have much of an opinion on that) it's about whether or not it would be better for them in the long run. If he hits you, then yes, go to a women's hostel if you must, and take your children with you. Call the police. Get friends or family involved, do whatever you have to do to protect yourself and your children.
Any physical abuse should be reported immediately to 911. It is not acceptable. A man can leave for a few hours instead of hitting! If you have no boundaries then get help. Because women who do not cause far more pain than is necessary.