I am in an abusive marriage, mentally emotionally and small of physical. It is way more emotional and mental....?

If your in an abusive relationship, reaching out is to someone who can help is the first thing to do such as, counselors etc. An abusive relationship is ABSOLUTELY NOT OK. If you are scared then report this to the police because it's not right. If you need a place to go i suggest you stay with your sister for a while because you shouldn't have to live in a negative environment with negative people. Its not safe and people could get hurt.

I strongly suggest that you talk to someone who will listen to you and help you. I also strongly advise marriage counseling and if this is getting way out of hand then you NEED TO REPORT THIS TO THE POLICE. Stay with your sister if you feel unsafe and don't look down on yourself but look up knowing everything is going to be alright.

Physical and mental abuse can make your marriage nightmarish. He has no right to treat you the way he does. But every coin has another side, doesn t it? Do you pick fights with him? Do you bring in old fights into your conversation? All these things can instigate your husband to behave violently. Or he might be a person with an inferiority complex. Do you think your children will accept your decision to divorce your husband. Children develop various complexities if they have a broken home. Think twice before you decide on anything. You cannot bring up your children without money.Never depend on others for your day to day survival. Your self-esteem will be shattered.

Like Allison said, I do also believe abusive is readily used. Things happen in marriages. Sometimes it is one sided, sometimes is both sides. I guess on here this place gets more cries for help and it is easy to use. I know men are generally the minority on here, so if one of us stands up we stand the risk of being knocked down. I believe Champ has a reason to call her husband abusive, but I don't read your question as calling anyone saying their spouse was abusive a liar.

It's not about whether the children accept the decision to divorce the husband (they're toddlers - 2 and 3 years old! They won't have much of an opinion on that) it's about whether or not it would be better for them in the long run. If he hits you, then yes, go to a women's hostel if you must, and take your children with you. Call the police. Get friends or family involved, do whatever you have to do to protect yourself and your children.

Any physical abuse should be reported immediately to 911. It is not acceptable. A man can leave for a few hours instead of hitting! If you have no boundaries then get help. Because women who do not cause far more pain than is necessary.

First, what I would do is wait until the kids are actually at school, pick them up from there and head straight to a safe house after stopping at the police department to make a report. Don't worry about not being able to retrieve anything right now, just worry about your kids.

Contact your local Women's Abuse help line. Been there, done that. You need to take your kids and yourself to another safe place to stay. Do not buy into his begging you to return - they only do this to keep control over you. If your cousin can let you stay there for awhile, that would be great. Contact a divorce attorney and also get a restraining order against him for both you and the kids.

Next time he lies even a single skin cell on you, you call 911 or whatever is the alarm number in your country. If he keeps bullying you, you tell him that while he's doing it. Sitting down with him and talking about it randomly will only feed his anger, it's like hitting a dog for biting on a couch days after he did it.

You should look and see if they have a local advocacy to help you. I know when i first filed for divorce from my husband I had to file for a protection order as well. They helped with that, but also helped other woman to be able to get out with their kids into a private shelter in town and helped them get on their feet and their own place. I would look and see if you have something like that where you live and use their help to get you and your kids out.

mental abuse can make your marriage nightmarish.Contact your local Women's Abuse help line.or. Contact a divorce attorney and also get a restraining order against him for both you and the kids.