What's the best way of getting my mother to stop critising everything my fiance does???

What's important is your new family. I know you want your mother to immediately to accept your fiancee, but the more you make an effort to please her. She's going to continue to criticize your fiancee.

What I will do is limit her from visiting her grandson! Why? Tell your mom this 'I am not going to allow you to criticize my fiancee, especially in front of my son, because if you are not going really be supportive of me and my son, then you won't see your grandson'

It's going to come a time when your son will pick up some of the negative vibes from your mom. If she's not satisfy with the way you and your fiancee raise your child, or if she just continue to mistreat the man you love, then you must separate yourself from her! This will give her sometime to think about her actions. This matter can escalates to the point where she will attack your son as well.

You have to give her some ultimatums or either be respectful or limit yourself from her! If you're relying on her from financial reasons, you're going have to start making some better arrangements! Just post for help in yahoo q@a. I will pray your situation. Good luck

God Bless

Stop the visits with your son and husband when you do go see her. Let her know why because her words hurt all of you. If she promises to behave, give her one more chance and no more. If she's nice, then see her again, but if she does or says something wrong again, just stop the relationship with her for your son and husband's sake. They need you and your mom should come second now. She must be jealous of you. That's too bad if that's the case. I wish you the best.

That is terrible, it is one thing to say to you that she doesn't approve but to start telling your son things and try to turn the child against his father is another.

Is your fiance violent, abusive, from what your saying I guess he isn't and he is every bit the doting partner and father most men are so your mum has no reason to hate him!!!

I would take her to one side and tell her that either she respects your choice of partner and the fact that he is father to her grandchild or you will stop her visiting your home. At the end of the day that is your fiance's home and he has every right to feel wanted and respected in it. As punishment I would tell your mum that you will stop visiting her as well.

Here's the cheesy answer. Tell her if she wants you in her life she has to lighten up. Explain how it makes you feel, that you love him, and that all she is doing is driving a wedge between herself and you two.

Here's the better answer.Have your guy leave for a week. Then, pay the biggest, scariest biker you can find to come home with you. When you see your mother, tell her she was right and Scorpion will make a much better husband. (make sure he pinches her butt at that point) She will probably pickup your fiance herself...

Parent are scared.

Your mother is scared of you being hurt. scared of loosing you. Maybe after her own bad experiences or things she has heard?

I think it is about time you sat down and had a chat with her to tell her You are growing up you need to live. You love this guy, and he loves you and mother needs to know that its not ok for her to say these things or she really will loose you forever.

Please stop it. If you love me, you will not make my life more difficult than it is. I'm sorry you don't like x, get over it. And do not run my son's father down.

That's it. Simply make it clear that you are not prepared to listen. You're supposed to be a grown up. Take control.

Did you ask her to?? I would try one nice conversation that includes a reminder that your choice for a husband was yours and you picked him--he is a good man and loves you--you would appreciate no more comments----they are not at all lady like--out of respect I have spoken nicely--next time you will not be welcome in the house---but remember she will still hate him regardless----nothing you can say or do--just ask her nicely--ONCE. good luck

You can't make her stop...but you can stay away from her. Unless of course you live with her, then you need to get your own place.

One way you could said its my chocies for you to see your grandson if you cant get along with his father then you will stop seeing Me and him.

Good luck!