Why boycott Wendy's if you don't oppose foster care adoption?

Like a lot of foundations, the Dave Thomas Foundation started off with good intentions but fell victim to fragmentation of it's original goal.

While finding homes for children in foster care still is a high priority, the foundation has added additional goals that are not keeping with it's original intent.

The addition of the Adoption Friendly Workplace I find offensive. Why are only adoptive parents given benefits? What about adoptees and mothers of adoption loss? Shouldn't we be entitled to claim our legal fees, court filing fees, state mandated confidential intermediary fees, state-run registry fees as adoption tax credits? Shouldn't we be entitled to paid days off when we need to travel to the state of our adoption and grovel before a judge to ask if we can pretty-please have our birth certificates?

The Foundation promotes National Adoption Month but neglects to mention once that these kids from foster care grow up to be adults who should be treated equally.

If the Foundation kept to it's original intent - finding homes for children in Foster Care, then I could support it. If they wish to add additional goals, the only goals I would support would be to raise awareness of the lifelong impact of adoption, not celebrating adoption or giving a pat on the back to corporations who pay adoptive parents.

But Wendy's still has a killer grilled chicken salad.

I support foster care adoptions 100%. My state has underwent a lot of reforms in the past 40 years --and that's why I agree. I have known a FEW cases where I had second thoughts. I do not believe in long term foster care---it is a form of limbo for the children and many have expressed that same sentiment to me. They no longer belong to their birth family and they are not ours either. Adoption does give them a seance of identity. I remember vividly the years of long term faster placement and I hope never to see that again. Yes it is best to keep siblings together if it can be done or at least have some form of contact after the adoption ---which I believe is rarely done. One of the problems ---the big problem---when it comes to keeping kids together is the LACK OF FOSTER HOMES. And there are too many people just not interested--and some interested for the wrong reasons. And when 4 kids are placed in 4 different homes in foster care and two years down the road these kids become available for adoption----and if each family is interested in adopting the child they have----then that is what happens---99% of the time. They all don't go to one home---no way. In an ideal world kids would never leave their home but it's not an ideal world. And there are not enough homes to keep them altogether--- I would like that too.

I don't really boycott anything because I don't see the point in it. I realize the Dave Thomas Foundation supports adoption, but I did know that their focus was more on foster care adoption. Either way, Wendy's is the only place I can go to get a baked potato and cesar side salad within five minutes. I don't think they'd notice if I stopped eating there so to do so would only hurt me.

I did not know about this, and it does make me glad to hear that there is a business that actually want to further things like this. But what does annoy me is that people would boycott Wendy's because they thought it had to do with adoptions not just foster adoptions. I totally understand the need to find homes for children in foster care. If I had not been adopted as an infant, I would have been in foster care. But why is it that people will shop at stores that give money to places like planned parenthood that actually abort babies, but would boycott a restaurant that gives money to adoption of ANY kind. Kind of a mixed up world, isn't it?

How silly. They likely did not see foster care. Or they think, as Gaii expressed, that people might see adoption as a good thing.

Well frankly, children who need families and get families is a good thing. Yes, you I and everyone else knows adoption comes from loss, but in the case of foster care the loss already occurred, thus making foster care adoption, and a child having a forever family, a good thing.

I used to think this as well. So one day I sent in an answer card from Wendy's and I stated that since the hats on the individuals in the Wendy's had something about "We support Adoption" I would no longer be eating at Wendy's.

Two weeks later I received a phone call from an individual with the local corporate Wendy's who asked me why I found this so offensive. I told him I was not in favor of giving my money to a restaurant that was so blatant about their support of a practice that I find offensive. He went on to state the organizations in the area they supported primarily dealt in foster care. I asked him which organizations. It just so happened the one organization he mentioned that they primarily supported I was personally aware of had been involved in taking away 4 children from a friend of mine and had been instrumental in keeping her from her children. So I stated that the place was involved in separating families because they contracted with Social Services who routinely break up families. He said he did know they did this, but thought it was always for the good of the children. I said I know that is what they lead you to believe, and sadly I will no longer be eating at your establishment.

So that is the reason I will not eat at Wen

Are there actually people who think Dave Thomas an Adopted Foster Child himself would bother raising funds for any other kind of adoption?

I am sooooooooo sad he is gone and that his legacy appears to be lost on foolish people who would boycott something that helps foster children find families to help them grow up.

I stopped for a burger on Jan 8, 2002 on my way to drop our adoption home study paperwork off at the DHS office... that morning I cried for the fact we had lost him.

And when I got my first job I PICKED Wendy's to apply BECAUSE Dave was all about the Kids...all about the Foster Children all about showing Them what can happen if they believe in themselves!

Dang I miss the Man! Children in Foster care have lost so much with his death...

I missed those comments about boycotting Wendys. That really makes no sense to me.

I did find the website interesting. I had never heard about his mission to help children in foster care. Definitely makes me think about Wendys in a better light. Thanks for posting about this.

Honestly, I had no idea they promoted foster care. I associate Dave Thomas with being an adoptee and dry hamburgers,nothing more.

If I boycott something, I would have to know the full story.

I am pro foster care and foster to adopt, so unless they were pushing newborn adoptions like Frosty's I would support them.

I will say I have issues with the term "Forever Family". My n family is part of my "forever family", too.

The foundation at Wendys has been doing so much good work for so many years. It doesn't surprize me though that some would boycott just for the sake of boycotting. The program was the brainchild of someone who knew the system only too well and I hope it continues it's good work for many years to come.