retrieving deleted text messages?

I'm sorry you are going through this. I don't think there is a way to do that, however, I also don't think you need any more evidence then you already have. Sounds like he is "Married, but looking" and lying to you and to the women he is communicating with. He is not respecting your marriage or his commitments and that is all you need.

I hope you find the strength and courage to leave him and make room for someone better in your life.

I'm sorry.

You cannot retrieve deleted messages without a court order, unfortunately. They won't give you a court order unless they are investigating a crime and need the messages for that purpose.

Even if you're on a family plan they won't -- hell, they won't even let you get your OWN deleted messages.

I called my own cell phone company once to find out what number a text was to on MY OWN PHONE one time and they refused to give me the information.

Don't torture yourself over deleted text messages you'll never see. Look at it this way -- does it really matter what the texts say or who they were to? The man is "single and looking" on an online dating site, and is messaging other women to meet them. Who cares what he's texting? In my opinion, what you've found is enough.

So sorry. Good luck.

I don't think you can get deleted texts, but im not sure.

Anyway, with the evidence you already have it is pretty clear that he is cheating, or looking to cheat. As of now I think you already have enough on him to confront him. Stay calm, he will most likely deny it. Just stay calm, and get an explanation for why he is on a dating site with a profile that says single and looking.

You don't really need to by the sounds if he's already on a dating site as single and looking. It'd only hurt you further to read that I'm sure. Sounds like you need to start asking him some questions.

Good luck :)

The only legal way to get his deleted text messages is to get a subpoena on the phone company because technically its their property.

However, there are devices you can check out too. I would google "sim data recovery" and see which works best for you. They are basically thumb drives that you put his sim card in and it tries to recover deleted data.

If there isn't any text messages there, you can't retrieve them. But more importantly, yes, that's cheating. He is not being faithful emotionally if he is on an online dating site claiming to be single. That's a betrayal to your marriage. Hire a PI if you need proof, but my uncle definitely did the same crap to my aunt and it ended up that yes, he was cheating physically on top of emotionally.

OK- Your husband joined an online dating service and you are still with him??? #1- LEAVE HIM!!!

Depending on your cell phone provider you can usually go online and see all of his calls, texts, etc. I know you can in TMobile as long as you are the primary account holder.

But honestly, don't waste your time and throw him out!

Leave him and go to therapy. When a man leaves a trail he is asking for a divorce in a very passive aggressive way! Move on sweetie, life is making room for the right man that needs to be in your life.

When you look back at this moment you'll be glad it's over and that it was the best thing that could have happened to you!

MOVE ON!!

Not without a subpoena for his number, and besides I read where most companies only retain text messages for a few days max.

Since he is gone so often and for so long, that is pretty incriminating but so obvious that it might not be true. I would ask him who he is texting and why they are erased. Maybe he is just texting and not actually being physical. I think that is just being hopeful though.