He wants to marry coz....?

Don't get married because he "seems" like a perfect fit. What if love never develops? My guess it that it won't. In my opinion, you'd know by now if you have the potential to fall in love with him.

Does anyone take marriage seriously anymore?

Tell him to get some Ritalin, not a wife.

If you both feel there is a lot of advantage in it and neither of you are going in with unreasonable expectations - why not?

People get married for many reasons. Love is the one we focus on mainly, in the West, but that's not to say the other types are lacking in merit.

If you both feel that a marriage would enhance your lives and take you a step closer to your life goals, go for it! There's no reason at all why the two of you cannot be happy together.

You've got the perfect opportunity here to prove to the world that it is NOT love that makes a marriage. It is in fact, perseverance and forgiveness that makes a marriage. It is a caring and understanding attitude in the face of honoring and nurturing each other. It is your word (vow) joined with his that will continue even in the deepest trials that will surely come.

It is those dopes that think that it is love that makes a marriage - when the first trouble comes along, what do they say? "I don't think I love you anymore." and they walk away. Marriage has NOTHING to do with love!

You've got your priorities straight. When you can come to love a person for who they are - even in anger and resentment; the tools and the path that you followed to MAKE that love will continue. You will be the one that will say "I don't think I love you anymore" and so what. "I said that I would continue in this marriage and I will learn to love you again. I did it once - I can do it again."

You have a strength that is not found much anymore.

Good Luck.

You can understand the situation properly but that doesn't mean you're not confused, at least what marriage is all about. You have to be shut off from your emotions to contimplate what you are wanting to do. For if you have any feelings alive in you you will end up feeling trapped in this thing called marriage because those feelings aren't being returned to you and that will be very hurtful.

Personally I needed to love my husband before I married him. Marriage is a challenge and if I didn't have the love/passion to get me through difficult times I probably wouldn't have the will to stay married. If you like this man and feel that you could make a life together your choice. Good Luck.

let him know what a big decision it is to you, and that if he really wants a "wife" he needs to treat you like he's wanting you to be his wife, not just a paper cut out partner. Marriage is the goal, not the beginning, of a relationship with someone you care about. Marriage these days is about the paper...alot of people can be married in their hearts without having the paper to say it. Legally, a marriage is alot harder to get out of than it is to get in, so weigh your options and see if that is right for you. Tell him if he wants to be married so badly, he needs to work to achieve the goal. Date for a while, and make sure that you want to live with this person. I am not going to suggest moving in w/ him, but get to know him, and see if there are things you believe you couldn't live without...

So lets say you marry him and he turns out to be the perfect husband loving, caring, romantic excellent provider and a true gentleman. He does everything you can to make you fall in love with you and it works you fall in love with him. But no matter how he tries & what you do he doesn't`t fall in love with you & vice versa?

You both should really consider that before deciding what to do.

There is no magic spell changing you when you get married. After the ceremony you're the same person as before. If he has problem focusing in life before marriage......he will still have problem focusing after except this time his lack of focus will affect both your lives, not just his.

If you or he is not totally and mutually in love then there is no reason to marry. If you do, it just becomes a lie, a piece of paper, a thing you did and will regret later. You have to have a better reason to get married than to just have someone there.

Are you looking to gain a legal residence by marriage.

marriage material, that's a new one for me, I have always thought that women go for a guy with money, hence the very high divorce rate.