My husband told me that if I lost my job, he would send me back to my parents house...?

I know how you feel my husband says things that are hurtful and then he say oh I didn't mean it that way..And I do try to let it go but it always in the back of my mind.And no both of you live in that house and have to pay bills sorry but the brother would be history and you should put your foot down and tell your husband you are not taking care of a grown man..he has to pay.

If he didn't mean it that way, don't bring it up again. If every time you bring it up, he'll get mad, don't bring it up !!

There are so many things you could fight about, in a marriage, or any relationship, for that matter.

Why not suggest his brother could help around the house, taking care of things your husband thinks is YOUR job, except you're working, and with the kids and dinner, and the cleaning and the laundry, and the pets and everyone wants something...... do you see ? Choose your battles, Honey.

Well I don't think that your brother in law should be living with you all scotch-free while you all work your a** off. I also think that you are a little too sensitive and will hold this against your husband for years to come and I also think that your husband didn't mean what he said. My husband say's a lot of stuff he don't mean to me and I don't let it bother me. So get over it and move on and have a happy marriage with your bother in law living with you.

It is wrong of your husband to say such things, maybe he came back later and said he did'nt mean it that way, anyway, it is in the back of his mind. Many relationships have soured due to the financial element.

It would be meanness to ask the wife to go back to parents house if she lost the job. The fundamental question arises to the man, why do u marry if u cannot (financially and emotionally) support a wife ?

I think you should talk to your husband about the brother living there. If he is doing chores then ok no problem but, if he's just using you then problem. Also, if he has a job he could at least help pay some groceries.

If you haven't had that conversation it sounds like you need to have it.

Good luck!

I agree with Katrina. He said he didn't mean it, so let it go.

Barring drugs or gambling or violence, your marriage will be as happy as you decide it is going to be. My husband and I managed to stay in love while he was deployed on a submarine and we couldn't even talk on the phone for months at a time. Here is our story, maybe it will inspire you and your husband to pay more positive attention to each other:

Don't bring up the past. If he has already told you that he did not mean it that way, then accept that and leave it that way. Sometimes people may say things the wrong way and that is what seem like happened here. Don't ruin your marriage over one little thing.

i would talk to your husband about how you feel, if the brother is going

to be staying there he also need to put in to the house. and ii not fair

for you to take care of everything, if you do get financial able to do

more then may be you need to bring back what he said to you about

who going to leave.

It was wrong for him to say it, but if he's already come back and modified his position then I'd let it go. Only bring it up if he says something else completely stupid later on AND you can connect the two.

yeah, because he wouldn't be able to support both you and his looser brother. he sounds immature. How serious was he? and it is not just up to him to decide to share your home with his brother for nothing in return. he'd at least do chores or buy the groceries or at least something