How long does it take a person to back to some normality in there relationship after the affair?

I am currently going through this right now. For me I think it would depend on the reason for the affair. I know for me it didn't take that long for me to forgive. It has taken me longer to forget. But in that case sometimes thats not an option anyways. It may be easier at least in my case to remember because then you know to never do what you may have done to cause the affair. (I am not saying that you have done anything that just happens to be the case for me). Also keep in mind that sometimes it may be difficult for both parties in my case my significant other is struggelling more with it than I am I know that that may seem difficult to be simpathetic too but keep in mind that if you truelly do want to make the relationship work after the affair then you will be supportive and caring about there needs as well. I hope that this helps you.

Depends upon the couple. Some couples heal, and both have to do their part to get there. Some couples never heal and simply can't get past the affair. There is no magic deadline. That's just the way it is. And honey, you do NOT want the relationship to go back to how it was..... all that does is set the stage for the affair to repeat itself. The two of you need to be willing take it to a different level entirely and work to keep it at a better level. Best wishes.

That depends on the couple. For some people, once that trust has been broken, it can take forever (or never) to get it back. But for other people, it may only take a few months. However, I don't believe that a relationship will ever really be NORMAL after an affair.

There will always be that "thought" as to where he/she really is, or what they are doing...

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However good your relationship once was, when one partner cheats the relationship is forever changed. It will NEVER be what it once was.

When trust is broken and you've been betrayed in the worst way, what would you consider "some normality"??

When I was betrayed by the man I loved more than life, I didn't want "normality".......I wanted him gone!.........Permanently!!

Some of that pain does go with you though. Unfortunately, the next man you meet (or woman if the situation is reversed) often takes the brunt of your lack of trust.

It depends on your self esteem and the willingess to forgive and the ability to truly let the affair go.

Everyone handles things differently and each person has to be able to figure out if his/her love for their spouse can overcome such a violation of the sanctity of his/her marriage.

If you can truly forgive and forget...it would be easier. But we humans, seem to take things so personally that it is hard to forget any transgression someone does to us. That is where your self esteem and self respect come into play in your ability to move past the pain of betrayal.

I just so your question and I just want to pass by to say I am sorry to hear of your pain.

Realistically you must understand that pain is different for everyone, and everyone has different coping strategies. You need to think about what is the coping strategy for you to overcome this, what things can you do that will make you feel worthy and fulfilled.

I really wish you the best and hope that with time sunshine will come into your life which maybe cloudy right now.

Unfortunately - the actions of the cheater leave you to be " damaged goods"

You will never be able to love or trust wholeheartedly again!

As for your relationship - it will never be the same again - you can only pick up the pieces and try to make the best of it.

But the memory will be with you for the rest of your life!

Wow. If I had to still look at my husband I would still be having issues. I think it depends on how emotional the affair was. Did he have any emotional attachment to his lover? Is he really remorseful. It all depends on those little intimate details.

It really depends on the person or persons. However it is hard to regain the love that is lost. The relationship will never be the same.