Does it bother you when people get close to your kids?

I feel the same way, my daughter is 7 now but when she was about 5 we were walking through our local shopping centre when this guy hit my girl with his shopping bag!!! I went ballistic!!! all because he didn't care about those around him and was too busy charging through the centre. Now my girl isn't small for the age she is lovely and tall and on that day she was wearing a bright red coat, you couldn't have missed her.

I get that way on public transport and the supermarket, too many adults think that kids should move out of the way for them but what is that going to teach the children.

I agree with talking issue also, I teach my girl not to talk to strangers but when we are sitting on a bench or something and a stranger will make a comment to my girl i'm not happy, because my girl is not rude so will then reply and before i know it she is having a conversation with someone I don't know.

I'm probably being over protective and paranoid but you see far too many horror stories on the news and you just can't ignore them can you.

I agree with the majority here and am saying you overreacted. You chose to take your daughter to a PUBLIC place (most likely crowded) where most people are on the go. Checkout lines are very narrow, there is limited room, and lines can be long. All the lady was doing was putting her purchases on a conveyor belt, big deal. She is not going to slow herself and the line behind you/her down to accommodate you and your daughter and shouldn't be expected to. Next time, move your cart/daughter over to the front of the line where the empty grocery bags are and stand behind her. Or leave her at home where she can remain in her safe sheltered bubble *sarcasm*. The world does not revolve around you and your daughter.

Your comments were also uncalled and all it does is showcase your immaturity and spitefulness. That poor lady was the victim of this whole tirade. I don't think you are a troll but I think you have some personal issues you need to work though.

"Her arm was literally inches from my daughter's hands, and her hip was brushing against my daughter's shoes"

If that had read: "her face was right in my daughter's face and she was touching her cheeks", then I would agree. But, sorry, I think your hormones were coming into play here and you majorly over reacted. She was just putting her groceries onto the conveyor belt. If you had so much of a problem with it, why didn't you re-position your own cart away from her?

The fact you called her obnoxious was appalling. She was hardly posing as a threat to your daughter now, was she?

If I were in that situation, I would take control rather than expect a stranger to read my mind. MOVE your cart next time, rather than expect the person to do it.

...Did you really feel that this elderly lady had intended to do something to your daughter? Right there in line?

I wouldn't have considered what she did creepy at all.

Think now about how closely you want to monitor your daughter's space. If you keep discouraging interaction with other people, she will not lead a very social life. And babies who are touched more/hugged more by others grow up to be more caring/warm children.

To be honest, I would have been very upset if you did that to me. I love children (I keep considering teaching Elementary Education later on in life)...but that is an act that would have discouraged me quite a bit. I probably would have teared up a bit, though I am somewhat sensitive and am about to start my period...

Next time, maybe say something to the lady. Small talk. She'll stand up and listen to you, rather than bend over near your daughter. She may even tell you that your child is adorable or reminds her of her granddaughter.

It would bother me if someone touched my child without asking. But if I was in line and a woman was putting groceries up on the conveyor to be checked out, it wouldn't bother me.

I LOVE when people say nice sweet things to my child! I think it's heaven when someone sees a baby or young child and smiles at them and me. It's an unspoken gesture of "Wow, your child is so cute and isn't life great with new babies and little kids in it?"

I would never say "look at that rude woman" to my child. Children learn things from adults. Whether you are a parent, grandparent, sibling, aunt/uncle or the child's babysitter, everything that is said to them they take in. It is better to be positive and say nice things then to be negative.

Remember one day you'll be the old lady trying to check out. Your kids will be all grown and on their own. You'll be missing your kids and looking forward to spending time with grandkids. When you see a baby or a toddler, thinking of your own children when they were young, you'll want to smile and ask the parent permission if you can talk to or "touch" their baby.

Karma has a way of biting you. Be careful what you do today and treat others how you'd like to be treated.

NO it wouldn't bother me. If they touched my child in an inappropriate manner yes it would. If anything I would have helped the older lady. We all age and one day I'll be old. I pray that there will be kind people to me when I am trying to shop and check out. Not someone who gets upset because I come to close to their child!

I don't know if you were hormonal, but gosh what a b*tch (And I don't mean any disrespect to you) you've been. She was just putting her groceries on the conveyor and she wasn't doing anything to your daughter. Like others said if she'd been intentionally touching your daughter or grabbing her like she's a doll because you know "she's so cute", yeah it would bother me, but in this instance, seriously WTF is wrong with you?

Heck if anything your cart was blocking the way to the conveyor and you should have moved it.

EDIT: and to answer my question, it means in this particular instance I wouldn't have minded that they got close to my child. In fact I would have taken the hint and moved my cart. If she had to bend over your daughter to reach the conveyor then your cart is in the way, not the other way around.

So if this same obnoxious lady saw your daughter was in danger in a few years time and did nothing - because she didn't want to 'invade her space - you would thank her would you? Think not! You would want her to come to your daughter's aid and wouldn't care how close she became then. What are you going to do when your children go to school; tell the teachers that they cannot come within four feet of them even if it means they learn nothing? How are your children expected to learn to look out for themselves if this is the type of lesson you will be teaching them?

Im going to be honest in spite the fact I dont know how crowded this checkout lane was, You're being paranoid and probably hurt this unassuming woman's feelings and left her baffled thinking "what was HER deal"?. Tn this particular circumstance. I find it unlikely she had any intent on offending you. You may have reacted with a good mother's instinct, but dont let that instinct go into overdrive causing you to sound like a "witch" in public.

If this incident had occured in an empty aisle and she was brushing around your baby, then I might have said something... but not in a checkout lane.

But giving you credit where its due, Its always being a good mother to be protective of your children and you should never ever turn your vision away from them when out and about

wow, rude much, and im not talking about the woman. you dont call someone obnoxious right in front of them to your child just because they were within a foot of your child while trying to unload their groceries. your in a public place waiting in line, you cant expect people to stay four feet back from your kid at all times, people will brush against her and get close to her, not because they are obnoxious but because you are in a public place waiting on line and are in a close space, its part of life. as long as they arent causing any harm to your child and arent going to step on them, whats the problem, so what if she brushed against your daughters shoe and her arm was near her hand, how does that make her obnoxious. i think you need to learn some social manners. if they were trying to pick her up or touch her face, i would understand, but just standing next to her?

I know how you feel, i don't mind people talking to my child but i don't like it when they start touching her and getting right up close to her.I get people coming up to her every time i enter a shop, i think its good for her to have interaction with new people but i think their is a limit.

I had a bloke talking to my child the other day, which i didn't mind but when he started getting closer i said were going now and left, you have to be really careful with some people.

Don't get me wrong i don't leave a shop every time someone gets close, i think you do have to be straight with people how you feel, the reason why i left that time was because i knew the bloke could not be trusted, (mothers Instinct)

I let people talk to her and the older ladies like torching her hand and stroking her face but that's my limit. I think if some one got that close to my trolley i would tell her straight, that shes to close and she has to move.