I'm 17 & feel like I'm being suppressed...?

Age 17 is such a frustrating age -- one is Soooooo close to the freedom of age 18 that they can taste it and they want it right now.

Disobeying and simply leaving the house when you've been grounded might cost you much more than you realize. For sure, it will permanently change the relationship between you and your parents. Today, you may not care, but ultimately you will.

A friend of mine was "shown the door" at age 18 by his father and told that he didn't care to see him again and not to come back. He was just too much trouble. He left the house with a hundred dollars in his pocket and lived on the street for five years, selling his body to get money to survive on. And no matter the economy, it's almost impossible to get a job with no home address, (I know you have a job right now.)

I'm not suggesting that with certainty getting kicked out is a consequence you may have to deal with, but you better be pretty certain you know what the consequence will be if you flaunt the rules in their face.

You are far better off to work for an accommodation on the issue. Certainly one of your parents is not as hard on this topic as the other. Talk to that parent quietly, without getting angry and tell him or her that at age 17 you need a bit more freedom. You're not looking to hitch-hike across the country in a miniskirt, and you know where to be and not to be, so safety shouldn't be a concern. You understand that they want to protect you, but you're not on the way out the door to do risky things. Get the "easier" parent to quietly work on the other,. They know how to do that and it will be your best road to success,

An 11:00 weekend curfew is too early for a 17 year old girl. You should ask for 12:30 -- that let's you stay at a party until midnight and then leave (and isn't as scary as saying one-o'clock). Leaving a party at midnight is not embarrassing or restrictive like leaving a party at 10:30 to be home for an 11:00 curfew.

Temporarily remove the word "date" from your vocabulary with your parents. Tell them that you and a friend are going to see a movie, or whatever. Don't call it that terrifying word, a "Date."

Good luck on this and stay positive. You sound like a terrific person.

Wow, that sucks! your parents are super strict! I guess whether or not you rebel should be based on 2 questions: 1. are they abusive? 2. Are they paying for college? Yeah, 1's a dumb question but IF they are then dear God don't provoke them!! Most likely though, they're not. Just strict, right? Yeah....

2. If they are paying for college tuition, I would recommend making them happy. That's a big deal and they can cut you off if they want to. You're like a year away from college, hang in there!! You can do all the craycray sheet you want when you're there and nobody would be the wiser.

If they aren't though....

I wouldn't recommend flat out rebellion. At least, not at first. Stuff like that can really mess with your relationship with your parents and it can prompt them to kick you out, or take your car, or hide your laptop, or stop paying for your phone bill, etc. If I were you, I would try having a conversation with them, letting them know how you feel and why you think you should be trusted. If that doesn't work, start sneaking out and telling them you'll be at, like, church, when you're actually chilling with shady people and trying new things (or whatever it is that floats your boat). If they hire a bouncer to guard your door and make sure you don't leave, well, just f*ck it. Something parents don't seem to realize is that they cannot stop you if you don't want to be stopped (<-- pretend like that is highlighted). At THAT point, I'd just blatantly disobey if I were you. I would go psycho if I was suppressed like that, I can't believe you've dealt with it for so long!

Anyways, that's just what I would do, if you care to follow my advice. I'm also an honors student, national merit student, same job for 2 years, 18 years old, blahblahblah person, so don't worry, you're not getting advice from some juvie or something! I, however, have the chillest parents in existence, and you'd be amazedd at how that takes the wind out of your sails of rebellion. It's like impossible to rebel because there's no rules to rebel against, and currently I don't like to rebel (last year was a little different) because I don't want to abuse the scores of trust they've placed in me and disappoint them! It's a sneaky trick! But ANYWAYS, you should use that as an example to your parents... lifting the rules actually yields better behavior! Who knew!

Well my parents are the same way, and I'm kinda in your situation, u kno, I'm 18 and I cant date, I cant stay past 9 or 10 pm aaand I cant watch R rated films or those specific scenes in a rated R film just because I'm still "too young" and I'M 18!!! I know what it feels like to wanna live and get out there and enjoy the bliss of freedom. I do rebel a little bit tho, But I don't wanna rebel SERIOUSLY, just because I don't want them to take anything valuable away from me or have them look at me like I'm some kinda criminal or anything. Maybe try telling which ever parent u r closest too, about how u're feeling. Let 'em kno and hopefully they'll make a compromise to ur needs. Good luck Kiddo :)

I think its so weird that someone said this is your only chance to be bad, when in reality you have pretty much yearssss to party, basically until you have kids. I wouldn't go too crazy but maybe just start going out and staying out later, send them a "hey im fine and will be home later text" just so they kmnow youre not dead or something. youll probably get in a lot of trouble and it may not even be worth it to hear your parents ***** about you staying out. Youre almost 18.. could always wait to really cut loose once your in school. I have to tell you, once you are in your twenties you have sooooo much fun, its ridiculous. Its way better than being a teenager because there is no sneaking around involved.

It is wicked weird that they dont allow sleepovers.. sleepovers are fun... I dont get why they are against them, thats really odd.

Even though it is nice to know your parents worry and all, it's important they trust you to make your own decisions about things like that. They should let you out and let you date, because the truth of the matter is no matter what they say you are going to do it anyway. Everyone wants to do things more if they aren't allowed to. You seem very responsible and someone they should be proud of. You've shown them your independence and deserve a little slack.

The question they need to ask themselves is,

Would they rather know what you are doing and where you are and who with? Or have you do it behind their backs anyway?

It's their decision, and I wish you good luck.

You can "rebel" when you go live at college or in an apartment across from college. If you rebel now, horrible things could happen to you like rape, etc. that are less likely to happen to you if you rebel in later years.

Your 17 do what you want if your willing to face th concequences. get it out of you system now so that your parents can hstill help you get back up when you fall.

I'm 17 too lol and I know what u mean. And your young, so honestly.., be bad! Its the only time in your life that u can