Is this life? Please help me understand my mom's point?

I can't tell you what your mom means but I can assume in her head all she's doing is wanting better for you. That's what all mother's want for their children. Money is an important part of life. Matter fact it is a huge impact in life, and with out money you can't do much but career wise, don't do it for the money if you don't also enjoy the job/career you've chosen. At the end of the day money cannot buy you happiness.

In your mother's time I'm guessing marriage was important, especially at a young age because your still considered to be very fertile. I think you just have to explain to you mother, really explain to her that you've tried the dating thing and you just haven't found the right guy. I doubt she'll care, but just try to make her understand your decision when it comes to that. As for the guys in your country. I understand where you coming from. Your just simply tired of the same washed out guys but in the this generation no matter what country your from some guys will continue to be the same.

Continue to focus on what you want and your happiness.

You can't rush love. Simple as that. Just take your time finding someone you're truly happy with because you don't just want to settle. You'd be unhappy if you did that. You're still so young you have a lot of time to figure out your life, and nothing about it should be rushed into. Just let things happen naturally and screw what your mom says. It's not her life its yours. I wouldn't say EVERY guy in your country sucks, cuz well its a whole country. But in the mean time just focus on you and making yourself happy. The best relationships happen when you're not searching for one constantly. Know what I mean? Hope I helped in some way :) you're an adult. Live your life how you want to not how others expect you to.

Okay, there probably is a mild way to say this but I can't think of it. I'll just be brutal here: Your mother has been brainwashed by her archaic culture to believe that you MUST marry within "your" *read: her* culture. The reason? Grandkids. Rushing into marriage will make your life a living hell. Don't let her marry you off to some stranger, just tell her no, mean it, and be prepared to back away from her if you have to. People who marry just because "mommy/daddy said so" end up drowning in regrets by the time mommy/daddy dies.

The blunt truth is=

Some day your mother will no longer be around.

If you listen to her, your life will be miserable.

Live the life that you want to and be happy.

Good luck !

Maybe its not about you, maybe its about your Mum... check her health sometimes they want to rush us, because something is wrong...

good luck

Dawn

I started reading your message. My mother also brainwashed me and I was confused.

just tell her that its your life. simple as that.