Relationship advice about my ex who cheated on me?

Girl, it's up to you whether you're worth being faithful for or not. If you stay with him he will cheat. If you want to be treated like that, proceed. If you feel you're worth more, find an honest, decent man. None of us on here can judge your self worth, you're only worth what you require from others.

You literally CAN let him go, you just CHOOSE not to.

That's right, it's a choice. Somewhere in your mind you absolve him of everything he's done and believe him to be something he's not: faithful, loyal, caring of your needs.

You say you "both" experience a connection unlike any other but it sounds like only you do. Because this "amazing connection" he has is one where he continues to cheat on you and hurt you and betray you regardless of how it makes you feel. He doesn't care about you the way you care about him. That is what it comes down to. Betraying someone over and over again is not love.

But what you see is what you get. He has lied and cheated 3 times. I am not judging, but I will say that from the outside, it would appear that you have low self-esteem and believe that you are not deserving a a more loving/monogamous/healthy relationship which is why you take him back time and time again.

Until you have had enough, you will experience the same. It just hasn't happened for you yet which is why you stay in the same rut, doing the same thing, expecting a different outcome.

As long as you love and respect HIM more than you do yourself, nobody can help you. Obviously he doesn't feel the same "connection" you do. If you feel you "can't live without him", then continue being a fool. And don't tell us if we've experienced love we'd understand. I'm in love with my wife and she's in love with me. But we respect ourselves too much to allow ourselves to be $hitted on. That's not love, that dependence. You wreak of desperation which is why he'll never stop cheating. Why should he? Learn to love yourself first and stop tying your happiness to a man. And this is coming from a man.

First of all you can live without him, you just choose not to.

You need to seek some guidance. How can you allow him to cheat on you continually? You do have low self esteem issues and I don't mean to sound harsh here.

This guy is bad news. You are allowing him to treat you poorly and he knows you will accept his nonsense. This won't stop. GET OUT! This relationship is toxic.

This belongs in Singles & Dating...

...and yes, I've been in love...but I also know that someone who would cheat on me, doesn't deserve my love so I don't find it all that difficult to walk away...I'm worth more than being used and betrayed by a lying, selfish, lowlife, piece-of-trash cheater...when you realize that about yourself, you'll be ready to move on and do what's right for you...

Yes, you CAN let him go...you CHOOSE not to (big difference)...so what are you gaining by continually playing the victim to this guy??? He can be as unkind to you as he wants, because you don't love yourself enough to tell him to get lost...

Funny how the 'connection' you claim to have, that you both know about, isn't something he chooses to share only with you...how many other chicks is he 'connecting' with??? That connection is in your head, and he'll play along because it keeps you coming back for more...

Dearest, he doesn't care a thing about you. IF he did, he wouldn't cheat. I bet all the girls he's cheated on you with thought the exact same thing - connection when they kiss, tells them all the wonderful things, etc. That's how he keeps getting into their panties.

He's not loving, he's just charming. He keeps coming back to you so he doesn't have to go without sex while he finds his next conquest, that's all.

here is what is happening:

your guy is too immature to be in an adult relationship - he cannot figure out how to put someone else's feelings first (hence the cheating)

he tells you all of these amazing things - tells you - his actions speak louder than words - words are only words - his actions are what you need to be looking at - they will tell you all you need to know

no doubt for him - there is an amazing connection with alot of females - or he would still be wanting needing that amazing connection only with you

P.T. Barnum was right. But anywho, which STD do you think he'll give you first? If I was a betting man, I would pick gonhorrea. It's making a comeback these days.

i think you are addicted to the pain he beings you

and no i will not judge who has a right

but you have to save YOURSELF what if you have a child together?

is this what you would teach your daughter to accept

love yourself more

and get some therapy

there is something in your past that makes you accept this

"He is such a liar"

A person who will lie to you simply has no respect for you- - and without respect there is no foundation for love.

By the way--we all judge based upon our ethics, we simply refrain from passing sentence.