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Should I act like a lady or go ahead and bust his car out ...my husband is cheating?

He said that they are just friends. I put him out of the house a few weeks ago , and he have been sleeping at work... Yesterday after hours I saw her car parked near his job, at a time when she had no business there... ( very late at night) sadly I have no access to get in to his job. But I wanted to bust out windows . Scratch his car etc.... I was sooooo mad ... Today I'm just sad... Should I confront him about it hoping that he finally come clean, confront her, or just plain simple go and bust his car out,????? I'm 36 years old, I want to b a lady about all this, but I'm so pissed at the fact that he can't come clean... I think he dosent want to divorce be for financial reasons, otherwise we would , we separated 3 weeks ago.... Pease help

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  • .
    Lv 7
    7 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Take the high road...anything you do to his vehicle could land you in jail...he's not worth it...get the marriage ended and move on with your life...his karma will take care of getting balance with him....

  • ?
    Lv 5
    7 years ago

    I can say this: If I wasn't cheating and had been kicked out of the house "for cheating" for three weeks, you'd see her car out front every night! At this point what's the harm...he's paying the penalty for cheating so he might as well enjoy the crime.

    You didn't list a shred of evidence to defend your position that he's cheating, but I assume you have something. If he's been gone three weeks now and you really, really think he's cheating then file for divorce and be done with it. Breaking out the windows or anything like that is going to cause you more pain.

    It's very sad this happens, but you need to pick up the pieces and move on now.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    Be a lady. Anger on your level will result in doing damage that you will have to pay for. It's not worth it. The first rule of revenge is to stop and think about it for a day or two. Usually the feeling goes away. Being a lady looks better in divorce court that vengeful shrew.

  • 7 years ago

    When you put him out he saw it as you giving him the freedom to do what he wants. What good would it do to confront him except to make easier for him to move in with her. You might have one chance to patch up your marriage and if that is what you want, you need to do it soon. The trouble is a marriage for financial reasons is not a real marriage.

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  • 7 years ago

    Should this go divorce go before a judge any un-lady like actions on your part will not set well. Revenge or retaliation is a double edged sword it will come back to you. You don't need him to get a divorce.

  • 7 years ago

    you want him to stay with you for financial reasons ? If not , take him to the cleaners , the best revenge and the hardest blow for him. If you want him back , then.... forgive and forgave ...but ask yourself how your life will look like in 2-5-15 years from now , 2.5 kids and a hazardous cheater husband

  • 7 years ago

    yea i would do it lol I mean, what proof would he have? Just make sure there are no cameras around BUT i think even if he does know it was you he wouldnt press charges because he wants to be iwth you still. But yea i would. Just don't hurt him or that girl lol

  • 7 years ago

    Do nothing other than head straight to a good divorce lawyer. get even by taking every cent you can from this guy.

  • 7 years ago

    Divorcing him does not require him wanting it, and it does not require him to "come clean". I don't understand why you seem to think either one of those things are necessary for a divorce.

  • Tbone
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    It all depends, do you like prison? If yes, go bust the car up and maybe him too.

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