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I want a relationship with my big sister but don't now where to start?
I love my sister from a distance..Me and my big sister has always had a bit of a rocky relationship but that's because she has "anger issues" that she release only on people who are closest to her and never takes responsibility for her actions. After the last fall out we had when she was clearly wrong she stopped talking to me!! And now it has an effect on me and my nieces and nephews as much as I try not to let it truth is it has. It's been 5 months since we talked and she literally lives down the street from me. I miss her but I don't want to be disrespected by her
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- jimrichLv 77 years agoFavorite Answer
You're both the sad VICTIMS of inadequate parenting which FAILED to promote love and respect in the family from day one. Your big sister was NEVER taught to lovingly and happily accept you when you were born and has been out to get you ever since. Because her parents FAILED to mentally prepare her for you, she saw you as an unwelcome, menacing INVADER of her perfect little world with mom and dad. And then, as soon as you were born, her parents ABANDONED her to give all or most of the love and attention she always had to YOU - the awful baby! She knew that her parents, and not you, were hurting her but she couldn't attack her beloved parents so she turned her rage onto you, thus staying in good stead with her parents while discharging her bitter anger at you - an easier and safer target than the people who really were hurting her. Then, once she committed to hating and punishing you, an innocent baby, she quickly FORGOT (Denial) who started the problem in the first place - her own parents - and engaged in a campaign of hating and punishing you instead of the real trouble makers.
Both of you have forgotten what happened in the beginning and just assume that siblings will fight but it's not true. They only fight were the parents have seriously FAILED to train them to be good friends from the beginning.
re: I want a relationship with my big sister but don't now where to start?
>> You will need to start by becoming a loving and respectful FRIEND then hope that she sees the wisdom in that and does the same for you. The damages your negligent parents did to both of you may take a long time to heal but, once you see how and why you were both damaged, it will be obvious what you need to do to overcome what your parents did to you kids.
You should have and could have been GOOD FRIENDS from day one IF ONLY your faulty parents had made that possible so do what you can to become her friend from now on and please be a better parent when it's your turn. good luck
Source(s): Bad parenting CAUSES sibling issues. - Anonymous7 years ago
you need to tell her how you feel about the whole issue. You need to let her know that you miss her and that you want to build a relationship with you. But if you want you could start by texting and calling every once and a while because there's a possibility that she misses you too.
- 7 years ago
aww sry ur feeling like that my sister went to rehab i miss her it stinks living alone
