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Is it healthy for a marriage to go out with friends while your spouse stays home and watches the kids?

My wife and I do not have a lot of people in the area to watch the kids. We go out by ourselves a handful of times through the year. However we can still go out with friends if 1 of us stays behind. Is that healthy?

She probably goes out a little more than me, but I don't mind. I think I may need to make more of an effort to see my friends. However my kids are 2 and 4 and I feel bad not spending time with them.

Thoughts?

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  • 4 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Of course it's healthy. You both need the break and the ability to socialize with friends. People in healthy marriages don't have to spend every waking hour together.

  • 4 years ago

    If it works for both of you fine but if it does not it may cause some resentment and chaos in the marriage. I think you need to find some babysitters so you can go out and do couple time once in awhile 2x a year don;t cut it.not doing this often can cause some disconnection in the marriage. This does not sound healthy and if she is going out on a ladies night and all her friends are single also not good. As long as she is a faithful wife and has not hurt you in the past why not. Just make sure your getting some time with your buds too.

  • 4 years ago

    Of course it is. Why would it be bad? You need your own friends and your own lives.

  • Raja
    Lv 7
    4 years ago

    Try to maintain a balance between going out and staying with the kids .This matter should be discussed with the partner and arrive at a solution so that both will have time to go out and also to see friends without neglecting the kids . Going out together as a coupe is the best if some arrangement could be made to look after the kids .

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  • 4 years ago

    Sigh.....there are moms you can trade babysitting with, hire a teenager in the neighborhood, hire a company.

    It's possible if you want to.

  • 4 years ago

    its very healthy and implies a good degree in mutual trust. its how all realtionships should be.

  • 4 years ago

    Twice a month. You each get twice a month you join your buddies solo if that is what you want to do. Don't spend all your money. If you can only go on dates together 5 x's a year... maybe twice a month with the buddies is too much?

  • macie
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    I think its normal. You two need your alone time and be able to go out together though too. I feel like its healthy for a relationship because it gives you a chance to get away from the house and all the crazy stuff that comes with working and being a parent for a while. Its cool that you guys do that, most marriages should be like that

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    It's not unhealthy, as long as the married people behave appropriately while out. MANY married couples have friends they don't share with their spouse, and may occasionally go out with those friends, sans spouse. It's fine.

    For some couples, having some time apart is definitely healthy. Being together all the time can cause people to get their fill of each other.

  • Jordan
    Lv 6
    4 years ago

    There's nothing wrong if everyone agrees. It's good to have time for yourselves.

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