kate

I’ve started talking to an old friend again recently. We’ll call this friend T. T ended our friendship, and started slowly contacting me again over time, and recently we’ve been talking a tiny bit pretty much every day. T found out that I liked the same sort of music as him and talked to me about it. A few hours later he sent me a few songs from this one band we both like. T said they thought I’d like them because of the style of the songs and said they sent them cause they were bored too. I listened to the songs and most of the songs are about a relationship that ended and the person singing wanting that person back. Or the person singing seeing how good a person they miss is without them and how they are jealous and want them back. Some were normal songs though. T and I were never in a relationship only a friendship. And I know T doesn’t like me because of T’s sexuality. But do you think the songs correlated with our friendship, and T maybe sent them because T was telling me how T felt through music? Is it true that people send songs like that to tell someone how they feel indirectly?

The other day I had eaten two chicken skewers and a handful of candy. After that I decided to make myself throw up three times in a row because I felt guilty about how much candy I’d eaten. The next morning, I woke up to my throat hurting. The left side of my throat was sore and hurting all day. When I had finally eaten at night, the pain went away for a while and when it came back the pain was on my whole neck, not just the left side. Today the pain is gone. But I wanted to know if that’s normal to feel after purging, for basically the first time at least. And no, I don’t want an answer telling me this lifestyle is unhealthy. I know it is, and I’m working on it. I just would really appreciate if someone could tell me if feeling pain like that is normal

Normally my periods are pretty light. But I started a new diet I think a couple months ago (Keto diet). Ever since my period has been weird. At first it was like normal. But then over time my period kept coming late and getting a tiny bit heavier. It was still somewhat light/medium so I didn’t think anything of it. Then this month came, and I was 6 days late. Then finally hit my period. It was suddenly pretty heavy, and I kept clotting. My family and I have been cheating on the Keto diet recently cause of birthdays etc so idk if that why or what. But we don’t cheat really badly. This is my third day on my period and it’s really heavy. I got concerned when I woke up, and felt like I was peeing myself when I stood up. I could even sit on the toilet without blood literally dripping out of me. My pad was fully covered, and with my old periods my pads wouldn’t even be covered that much in a whole day. It’s only morning so idk if my period is going to get lighter through out the day. But I’m really concerned. Do you have any idea why my period is so heavy now, out of the blue? (Sorry Of most of this was tmi!)

Whenever I think of certain things I get nervous, even if I shouldn’t be getting nervous. For example, I recently went to Disneyland and got a picture with Peter Pan. I’ve loved him since I was a child, so I put the picture as my new home screen background. But every time I look at it I get really nervous and get a butterfly feeling in my stomach to the point I almost can’t look at it. This feeling happens with lots of things. Another example: I’m a theatre kid so I audition for things. If I think about an upcoming audition, sometimes I get the same feeling. Or if I think about a dance or vocal class I have to go to later in the day I’ll get that feeling too. Sometimes I even get the feeling when I’m about to do something as simple as text someone back! Why do I get this feeling??

I had a dream that I was laying in bed. Demons in white masks and black robes were surrounding me and I was using Gods name to make them go away. It took a little bit, but they started going away. And then one of the demons turned into an attractive boy that looked around my age (17 maybe). It started walking towards me and despite feeling like I should ward this one away too, I didn’t because I was so attracted to him. He crawled on top of my and started kissing my neck. It was almost hypnotic control or something. I let him continue. After the kiss I saw him in a while new light. I was in love with him, and he became my boyfriend in the dream. Then the last thing I remember i the dream is us about to have sex, and me getting on top of him (even though we were filling dressed). What does this mean?? I can’t find meanings anywhere

I used to eat really badly. I was binging, constantly eating terrible foods etc. And then my whole life changed recently when I started doing the Keto diet/lifestyle. Well, a few weeks into Keto I realized that whenever I’m presented with a unhealthy desert or food, I don’t want to eat it and I feel really guilty. My body literally won’t let me eat the food, it doesn’t want to. Even if it looks good, and I want to try it, my mindset just keeps telling me I can’t eat it because I’m on Keto. It’s almost like a fear, I guess you could say. How do I overcome this and realize that eating unhealthy things here and there in moderation won’t hurt me?

I started the Keto diet maybe two weeks ago. I have also been taking 4 dance classes, three times a week. Sometimes I would go on a stationary bike/ do crunches when I don’t have class. I’m eating around 800 or less calories per day. Sometimes 900. I was supposed to get my period on the 18th and I haven’t gotten it for 6 days now. I’m stressed because I have a trip to go to on the 29!! My period usually last 5 days, so I would consider this missed. So, if I missed my period, could it come next week? Or would it just come at the usual scheduled time (like if I had gotten my period, even though I didn’t). I hope that makes sense!

There’s this girl on my Snapchat that always post pictures of her with captions like, “no one loves me” or “I have no friends”. But it’s not serious kinda, it’s more like a cry for attention kinda thing. And today she posted, “No one has talked to me since I got back. I feel like no one likes me. But since when do I not feel like that”. As someone who actually has zero friends, this is so annoying. I haven’t gotten a text from someone for months unless it’s been my parents or siblings. I know the girl that posts that stuff has a good social life and is quite popular actually. But she always takes what she has for granted and seeks out attention. Why do people do this??

Yesterday night when I stepped on a scale for the first time in a while, it said 111 pounds. I went on a bunch of other times and it ranged from 106 to 111. I’ve been dieting and dancing every week for maybe a little over a month. But I was still shocked to see the number. I’m quite short, but I definitely don’t look 111. I would say I look around 150 or 160. I checked again this morning and it said 115. Then went down, and the third time it went back up to 115. Do you think it’s broken? And even if it was broken, would I still weight around that same weight?

I’ve been learning to sing for over a year and I just started learning how to dance etc. My mom rarely ever praises me for my talents or says I’m doing good. Which is fine, it doesn’t matter. But what does matter to me is when she listens to other kids sing or watches them dance, and then rants and raves about them to me. Saying how great THEY are. I admit, I do have jealousy problems, and my mom knows that. She knows I’m sensitive when she raves about other kids, because it makes me feel less. I can admit when other kids are talented, and I can be proud of other kids. It’s just when I never get praise from my mom like that, but she’s so willing to give kids she barely knows praise and support. It just kinda sucks I guess. And it almost feels like she’s trying to rub it in or something. I know I’m good at what I do. But it can be really discouraging when my mom acts like this towards other kids and not me also. I don’t know how to deal with this. I would just like some advice I guess

I had just got done with volunteering for something and my parents picked me up. They asked me what I wanted to eat or if I’d rather eat at home Etc. I said sure, that I’d eat out and asked what was near by. We were already driving and my dad got mad and practically started yelling asking what I want. So finally, I said Burger King. And he got all pissy saying he had just pasted a turn to go to Burger King and that’s why I should’ve said something earlier (When I clearly stated I was asking what’s close by so we didn’t have to go out of our way). So then I said it’s fine and that I’d pick something else then. And he snapped for no reason saying, “YOURE GONNA EAT BURGER KING.” Etc etc. Keep in mind, when I got in the car I wasn’t being rude or anything. He just randomly snapped and I was just trying to be considerate. Why do people get so angry over little stupid things like this? I want to understand it.

Let’s say a friend of yours posted that they were feeling suicidal. After that, they stopped being on social media. So the next day (after they posted the suicidal thing) you texted them asking if they were okay and they didn’t reply. And they hadn’t been on social media ever since they posted that they we’re feeling suicidal. Would you be worried about them?

I have this friend that always does things that make me upset. I don’t think he really realizes it. For example, we celebrated 4th of july together yesterday, and he was texting other people and looking on his phone a lot of the time. It made me upset. But whenever he was talking to me, I was happy. However, whenever I’m not around him, I still feel sad and I miss him. It’s like he makes me happy, but the irritated me and makes me sad at the same time. But then I’m sad even without him, and get jealous when I see him with other people. I don’t know what to do about this. I really don’t want to let him go, and I want to make our friendship work because I don’t know what I’d do without him. But I want to stop feeling sad, irritated, and jealous.

Sometimes when I’m talking to a friend, I’ll mention another friend and talk about how sweet they are etc. At an appropriate time of course. But apparently this makes my friends feel like I don’t like them, and like I don’t want to hang out with them?! I don’t understand why I can’t give another person recognition without seeming like I don’t like the friend I’m talking to them about. And yes, I compliment all my friends and make sure they know how amazing they are! I’m not leaving anyone out. But right when I talk about a nice encounter I had with another person, they suddenly think I like that person better. I want to try and understand why this is happening? I don’t want to make my friends upset. But I also don’t understand why they are getting upset over this. Especially when I also compliment them too.

I’m acting as Miss Dinsmore in Singin’ In The Rain. I thought it would be funny to add a flask to the scene (so I have a prop to interact with, and to make the crowd laugh). I want to bring this idea up with my director and see if she thinks it’s a good idea to add in. And yes, I can provide my own flask. However, I don’t know how to bring this up with her without seeming disrespectful or like I’m trying to be in control. How do I suggest the idea without seeming rude??

Me and my best friend are in a musical together. We share mutual friends who are also in the show. During rehearsals, he will slowly start to drift and start hanging out with other people. Specifically one person. When I told him about it, he made it seem like he doesn’t like that person and that he would rather hang out with me instead. We both feel like we are ignoring each other at rehearsal. However, when we get home a couple hours after rehearsal, he FaceTimes me. I want to hang out with him more at rehearsal instead of over the phone. But I always feel like he doesn’t wanna hang out with me or like he slowly drifts away as rehearsal goes on. I also don’t wanna be following he around like a dog though, or be clingy. I think I might talk to him about it today! But idk what to do! How do I get him to come up to me and hang out during rehearsal??

This girl direct messaged me on Instagram (She follows my account btw). All she said was, “Look beautiful”. I know this seems stupid, but does she mean I look beautiful? I don’t wanna reply with thanks if that’s not what she meant😂 I know that’s probably what she meant but I just wanted to double check with other people

So I met this boy in a theater company we were in together. We have now become best friends and we could pretty much talk about anything together. I’ve known he was gay since we met but now he’s acting weird. Whenever we talk about our fantasies, he usually talks about how he wants guys to sleep with him Etc. But he’s started acting weird. It started off with him saying I was “thick” “hot” and “smexy.” I didn’t think anything of this. Then he started saying he would screw me (have sex with me) even though he is gay and that I would be an “exception.” I thought this was a joke so again I didn’t take it too serious I just laughed. But recently he’s been saying things like:

•(When talking about how much I like my crush) “Well I’m gonna change that.”

•(While he’s procrastinating on homework)”Force me to do my homework”(in sexual voice)

•He guessed how I would master bate and what I would sound like when master bating

•He asked if he could eat me out multiple times and said, “Trust me (my name), I know some tricks for eating out girls.”

•He said he wants to 69 with me

•He moans in front of me all the time when thinking about guys he likes

This is all so confusing because when we are talking about fantasies, he’ll talk about how he wants to eat me out. And then literally two seconds later y’all about how hot guys are and how he can’t see himself having sex with a girl. I don’t know what to think anymore. I can’t tell if he’s joking cause he seems serious. Please help?

So recently I got cast as a main character in a musical. The character I’m playing has a love interest. Long story short, when I figured out who was playing my love interest in the show, my brain kinda ended up tricking me into developing a crush on him. This happens with actors because they have to pretend to actually like that person playing their love interests which leads to it becoming reality. Him and I haven’t done one on one scenes yet, but we have read the script as a full cast. Or a read through as actors call it. Him and I have made eye contact a lot, and that’s pretty much it cause we haven’t talked to each other or had one on one rehearsals with each other yet. So this left me wondering if he possibly feels the same way about me. Or if he is developing a crush on me, or is intrigued by me like I am with him. So I was wondering: How do you know if someone is interested in you without talking to them? There has to be some way to know right?