Pamela

He broke up with me yesterday.. oddly enough I'm not upset about the breakup but just the way he did it. He texted instead of called, lied for weeks prior and then gave excuse after excuse. You don't do people you claim to care about the way he did me. I consider myself pretty level-headed so it was all sort of unnecessary.

I was in shock but wasn't surprised. I seen it coming from a mile away and honestly I brought it up, that I thought he would break up with me, 3 days before he did it. He assured me things were great between us. He'll never get the satisfaction of knowing he destroyed me (that I ugly cried to my mother) and I at least feel great about that. 

We had a trip planned today, I was suppose to get on the plane at 2pm. My birthday is in a week. I think I'm more upset that he kept me excited and did a countdown.. than the actual trip falling through. 

I've just never met a more self serving individual and as long as he got what he wanted, he didn't care about the next. Should've known I'd be next. I'm on no contact, it's what is best for me, but I've never wanted to a person to come back so bad just to tell them I want nothing to do with them ever.

I deserved better than what I got. More than a text, the lies, the "I never meant to hurt you and it wasn't you it was me." excuse.

Sorry, I'm only venting because I currently have no one to talk to. 

So to give it a bit of background, we're friends and I thought good friends for about a year. Perhaps I was wrong. We talked all the time and we would hang out occasionally. I got a boyfriend and that's kind of when it started but that was almost 4 months ago. Over the last 1.5 weeks, he has been extremely standoffish and acts like I'm bothering him when I reach out just to see how he's doing. I'm not a fan of feeling like I'm bothering people. 

I'm not really sure why the sudden change but maybe I'm missing something. Don't get me wrong, I'm going to ask him about it as I've never had an issue telling him when I have a problem between us, it just seems so sudden. Plus I wanted to make sure it wasnt just me but he's been pretty consistent about it. I thought I'd ask him about his personal life, if everything is ok. I wasn't insisting that he talk to me about anything because he normally tells me but he flat out refused lol.

I'm not sure how to take him, how I should approach it because I do consider him a good friend. 

I'm just trying to figure out the best way to approach without ruffling feathers i guess. I just like to hear outside opinions, it helps to get perspectives I may be missing. 

I use to really like this coworker of mine, but moved on once I found out he has a girlfriend but I still got emotionally attached but let that go too. 

I'm pretty sure he still likes me though. Whenever he sees me talking to one specific guy, he always has to make a comment. He'll either tell me I should date the guy or ask if I like him. He knows the answer to both. Or he'll straight up ignore me if he sees me talking to him. 

I find this all very interesting considering he has a girlfriend plus I've told him I don't appreciate him overstepping his boundaries when he has a girlfriend and who I date shouldn't concern him. He still does it. He is a great friend, I'm not sure how else to address then other than cutting contact, which I'd rather not do. 

When he ask about the guy I always ask how him and his girlfriend are doing and he'll always they're good but he doesn't know if she's the one, whatever the hell that means.

What do you guys think I should do?

I m getting back into Sims 3 despite the release of Sims 4 discover university and planet zoo. I just cannot seem to get into sims 4, no matter what I try. With that being said, I m trying to find new challenged and story lines besides the typically YA meets YA = thousands of kids.

One I had was enjoyable but I ve done it. Had two YA, they had kids, etc. The kid with the mooch trait became a super douche and would constantly ask for money from the parents, they were rich.

The parents died, giving that sim ( i cant remember if they were male or female) the majority of their money. They ran through it and gained tons of enemies throughout town. So they had to start their life from scratch in the town that hated them. It was a pretty interesting dynamic.

Sorry to ramble, but what were some of your go to?

So a cousin and I were drunk, his wife, sister and our grandmother were all in attendance. Yes we were all drunk. I get along with the cousin exceptionally, whenever I come into town he always makes a point to come see me at our grandmothers since I stay there during my stays.

I won't lie and act like years ago I didn't get vibes from him liking me more than a cousin and it all came to blows the other night. We're stumbling drunk and it was hot so he and I walked outside. His wife, sister were already passed out and my grandmother stayed behind. He literally let out all his feelings of sexual attraction for me. How he thought I was beautiful and super intelligent. Mind you we're first damn cousins. Somehow he convinced himself that I was only related by marriage, which we have the same grandfather. I explained that which he said he didn't care and still wanted me. I told him how weird he was being and that us being drunk had him talking stupid.

He admitted he was hammered but that what he spoke was honestly how he felt. I'm laughing because I still think he's playing which afterwards he basically tried to fondle me. I honestly couldn't even look at him the next morning and I'm just hoping to put it behind us and he never brings the **** up again. I honestly don't know my next steps because he's doing so well in everything but im just all over the place in thought.

What do you guys think? I'm not telling other family members so that's off the table.

This guy I work with straight up ignores me and avoids eye contact. I actually feel like this dude legit hates me but the thing is I did nothing to him. He will speak to everyone but me even if we re in a group of people. He will only speak to me if he thinks it s important, I guess, which usually doesn t require him speaking to me but the thing is i catch him staring all the time, he looks away when I look at him, he goes to fixing himself up when he notices I m around and when I do speak to him he s super sweet and respectful, smiley with his mouth and eyes, seems nervous. He has such a nervous energy but if he thinks I m not around or looking, he s really cool calm collected and flirtatious and playful with everyone but I don t get the ignoring me thing otherswise.

I m actually annoyed. I d rather him just say he hates so I can at least know but like I said to my knowledge, I ve done nothing for him to hate or dislike me. I could ask him but i think he could easily act as if I m crazy which I m kinda feeling like it.

So I have a friend that i work with, she's extremely into this guy we work with. To my knowledge, he's into her too but he denies it to anyone that ask. Long story short, they slept together, he had a girlfriend but they broke up for other reasons, supposedly and now my friend is just waiting in the distance. I'm not sure if he said they would be together but he's running around telling everyone he's single and he wants to stay single. Now he completely denies even being into her and he's switching his work schedule around to basically not see her.

Granted im only asking because she's confused and I honestly have no words. I don't speak to the guy otherwise I would've asked myself what's his deal but it's also suppose to be a secret between them so if anyone brings it up she's really screwed with him. Anyone have suggestions on what she should do or anything?

Has anyone ever tried to look up a coworker on Facebook, for giggles, and they pop up immediately? You have no mutual friends, like none. Lol I've always thought this was funny.

Some people can't help but to be hateful at every turn, nothing is sacred and nothing is off guard for them. I think the only way to view them is miserable human beings. What other reason could cause someone to be so negative all the time.

For the past few weeks, I get the feeling a coworker may have a crush on me. I don't want to jump to conclusions but he genuinely has this nervous and shy energy around me when he seems to be fairly confident. Today kinda brought this to my full attention.

Reason is when I caught him staring, he turned his head so fast you would think he broke his neck. Whenever we're walking head on, he goes above and beyond not to look in my direction. Lastly, we don't communicate but we share a mutual coworker between us that we both communicate with. While she was talking to us both, I seen him staring at me from the corner of my eye but again when I'd look he'd look away.

This is all kinda hilarious to me. What's your guys take on this? Nothing wrong with a work husband, doesn't hurt that he's cute.

In your opinion, which brand is the most cost efficient and likely to withstand the wear and tear of everyday life for sometime? I'm looking into buying a pair and I'm looking into Sears.. do you recommend some place better or have you had a bad experience with Sears? How do you feel about used washers and dryers. Thank you for your help.

I suppose to be transferring to another location within the next week but a huge situation just came up that possibly more than half the staff will be written up for and I was wondering if this will slow down or completely halt my process of moving? Any ideas.

Ok, I'm aware I've gotten bigger and I'm working on it. What's funny is I've been 200lbs before and didn't feel like this. I don't feel or think I look 200lbs. I'm not sure. I'm not using this as an excuse not to lose but it's interesting. Any suggestions as to why this might be?

Do you guys know of any bank, unions or lenders that will give a loan for a park model rv? Has anyone ever bought one and had no trouble. It seems incredibly hard to find one that even lends even with a great credit score and savings. Thank you

Which is best in your opinion for weight loss, longevity, health, appetite suppressant and mental clarity?

I didn't think much about it but my mom said guys never jokingly do that. He's just testing me.. now it's obviously worrying me. Should I just take it as a joke and leave it at that.

"So do you wanna marry me?" Is how he asked

We re not dating but we re "talking." Asked a good question.. have you ever cheated before? He says he has.. which ok he tells me he regrets it and he s mad he ****** that up. No big deal I understand. He then proceeds to talk nonchalantly about all his other "relationships" or funships, as he calls them and he s cheated on all the girls in those too. Says he just gets bored and does his thing.. goes back to the girls as if nothing happened. I m like what the ****.

So now I m irritated because I like him but I know I have to end it. I just needed to vent.

I just started taking multivitamins almost a week ago and I've noticed I started breaking out on my back and a few here and there on my face. I suppose I can't call it acne.. just a few minor bumps here and there but I haven't had back acne in years. I planned to contribute it to my menstrual being around the corner but I don't use get pimples on my back from it. Should I stop or give them a chance to actually do their job?

It is a one a day multivitamin and I do actually feel better. Not as tired. My skin isn't as dry and I don't feel cold all the time as much either. I doubt it would work this fast.. it may all be in my mind but I'm just curious.

Thank you in advance!

Ok, please help because I don't want to get discouraged. The only reason I went 3 weeks is because I'm a woman and didn't want to weigh myself during a certain time and wanted to give myself a week to recover.

I'm 5'3, now 150lbs. I drink well over my body weight in water, weight lifting-yoga-hiit- and the occasional 3 mile walk once a week. Not all of those happen in the same week but I workout at least 4x weekly. Eat clean, track and eat roughly 1250ish-1500ish, I never eat the same amount everyday and also do IF.

I do notice in my pictures I'm smaller, notice muscle tone and my clothes fight way different but is 5 lbs in 3 weeks really enough for what I'm doing?

Thank you guys in advance

I've been talking to a guy on and off for 6 months (this is normal for me) started only getting serious in the last month and a half and about 4 days ago, which I'm not even sure he realizes or he just doesn't care, he admitted that he loved his "best friend" but she moved on and he's sad nothing came from that relationship.

Now honestly I had no idea how to respond, so I've been ignoring him for the past 3 days which in that amount of time I've come to the conclusion that I don't want to talk or see him anymore but I want him to be aware of why then again I know he's gonna throw that he told me the truth in my face which keeps me from going there.

I'm not even sure he's fully aware that he's telling women this or again he doesn't give a dam and expects women to be ok with it. He's been texting every morning, he sent me a funny pic this morning and he's snapchatting as if the conservation never happened, which have all been ignored. Not quite sure what to do here? Thanks in advance!

He's Gemini, not sure of his placements.

I'm Aquarius Sun, Aries Venus, Sag moon and cancer mars