Who's right, me or my husband?

I know this is hard to swallow but you need to let him lead more or you'll end up divorced.

I get depressed sometimes and buy things to relieve my emotions but there is ALWAYS a reason behind my sadness. When it's solved, the depression goes away.

You need to help him find out why he's sad. Until you find out he needs your compassion. That doens't mean he needs to be spending every scent you guys have though.

Well, your husband is a sentimental lug of a guy. He seems to be enjoying looking for a car. I wonder how he could buy a car without actually driving it or seeing it? Will his father go and purchase this car for him and then help move it when you get back to the states?

Is the dad the one pushing for the extra car? Maybe dad has another kid and was letting that kid use your husbands car? Now the car is gone and dad is making son feel guilty? Why a two couple family with one small child would need three cars is beyond me. The insurance, the extra space, etc... It's doesn't make sense.

However, aside from putting your foot down and demanding he quit, you are helpless to prevent him from looking. What I would do in your case is offer a alternative issue that needs attention. Maybe when you get back to the states you will want to buy your daughter a nice swing set and slide, these are not cheap. A nice one can run up towards 3,000 bucks. Maybe when you get back you will need some cash travel or home items? Maybe you want to put a few dollars in savings?

Aside from attempting to steer him towards a better use for the money I don't know what to suggest.

On another note, when he comes up with other ideas, support him. You are a real logical person which is a great thing, but for the sake of his crazy sanity, set logic aside on some smaller issues and support him. He obviously feels like he is missing something in his life, why else would he be so insane about buy a car that he doesn't need?

I can't believe you even had to ask this question.

It is a stupid idea.

He wants to buy a car, with out looking at.

He wants to buy a car, and impose some one else,

to go, and handle the paper work,

He wants to insure a 3rd car, and leave it at some one elses house

He wants a car, that he cannot drive for another year

And this guy, claims he is depressed?

It made me depressed by reading the whole damn thing.

Is he in the military too? Or is the house -husband?

If he is serious, my first impression is he wants someone else to use or have the car for a year.

If he is being honest, He is just plain dumb.

Buy a car now, let it sit for a year,

Then have to change the fluids because of it just sitting

Plus the car will lose its value because it is a year later, and no one will be using it (stupid)

And you want to go to counseling? hahahaha

He needs it more then you.

Tell him to buy a dog here in the USA, and he can leave the dog at my house for year.

And when you come back a year later, you can come over and get the dog. LOL

Makes no sense at all. Right.

Again it is a stupid idea, and it was dumb that you could not even rely on your conscious for this.

If he said, I want to buy a car for my mom/ dad, and let them use it for year,or so, well that is a little different.

For me reading this story is not about who is right and who is wrong, you have a very strong personality, and I am not saying that is a bad thing but it could be if your hubby has a soft personality. I am a strong willed women and at times have had to learn to be a bit softer to make my man feel like a man, and I think this is what this is about. If he wants to get the car let him, if it doesn't fit in the new houses yard then he will sell it, but really it is not worth the aggravation of fighting over something so silly, we sometimes need to just let things be. Choose your battles my mom always said. The other thing is if he is depressed he will not want to go to the doctor, obviously because he is down and not feeling up to anything, just because you feel the situation is not serious does not mean it isn't. Being in the army teaches us to be "hard" softness is also such a nice quality God gave us women.

Your husband has been depressed for 3 years and is not getting help and you are this worried about him buying a dam* car?? Maybe buying the car will make him feel better. Maybe he's depressed b/c you so clearly wear the pants in the house that he can't even be a man. Geez let him buy the effin car and if you have no place to put it figure that out then or give daddy's truck back. Bleh.

He wants to do something to make himself feel important. Buying a car. He is medically depressed and he needs to get help. His decision making processes are out of whack. Many depressed people don't get help because they are ashamed. You are a strong person. Get him to a doctor. Dead serious.

i think of its substantial to look at what shop the receipt is from besides as what became into offered. it would desire to grant you clues to whether he became into skipping artwork to do something he shouldnt have been doing. If its something simple, like groceries, possibly the time became into incorrect. attempt and think of decrease back to whilst he offered the object on the receipt. possibly its from a furnish shop and he had to %. something up for his workplace? If that doesnt help, i might call, or bypass to the shop, and ask the cashiers if the time is frequently appropriate and that i might enquire with reference to the object that became into offered on the receipt. as quickly as back, if its something minute, I wouldnt difficulty approximately. yet for sure if its something that he shouldnt have been paying for then you extremely could actually carry it up.

He is right. He also does not need a doctor, I know why he is depressed.

You have a valid point...

Cheat on him and he'll do what you want him to do.